Should you be included in your spouse’s career? If you feel left out, what should you do? Is there any way you can convince them to let you in? For individuals with careers, work takes up a significant part of life. Maybe your spouse spends just as much time at work as they do at home, if not more. You might feel like their job practically owns them. If they don’t talk to you about it much, you may be feeling left out. You Want to Know Your Spouse as a Whole Person It’s natural to want to be a…
Let’s say you get great news, and you can’t wait to tell someone. Can you share it with family, friends, or coworkers first? Or should you wait to tell your spouse? It can be tempting to let the big news slip before you get home. But when you share your excitement with everyone else first, that puts a damper on the moment you’ll share with your spouse later. You might not realize it, but you’re giving up important memories you could be making in your marriage. Telling Everyone Else the Big News Can Dull Your Excitement Sharing good news with…
Has your spouse been distant from you lately? Wondering how to reconnect and reignite the spark? It’s normal to experience seasons of disconnection in marriage. But it’s also important to intentionally reconnect when you notice the drift. For some individuals, great conversations are the key to intimacy. For others, it’s more about physical connection. Let’s look at a few ways you can reignite the spark in your relationship in each scenario. If You’re Looking For Deeper Conversations… If good conversation fills your soul, it’s disconcerting when your spouse is distant. You might feel panicked; you want these conversations, and maybe…
What happened to the person you fell in love with? Back when you were dating and newly married, you thought you knew your spouse. Now, they’ve changed, and you’re not sure you recognize them anymore. What should you do? One of the biggest marriage myths is, “The person I fell in love with will always stay the same.” When your spouse changes, it can be startling. That’s particularly true if the change is significant. We romanticize the idea of what our spouse will be like as a husband or wife. That’s completely normal. But we’re not prepared when some of…
Is there ever a “right time” to have a hard conversation with your spouse? Deciding when to have a difficult discussion can be a challenge. Tough topics can rock the boat, disturbing the sense of peace between you. Even though you want to bring up a particular issue with your spouse, you might put it off to avoid discomfort. The thing is, putting hard conversations on hold will compound the problem over time. It’s important to commit to having the conversation sooner rather than later, if possible. Then, it’s time to decide on a time to talk to your spouse….
Do you find it difficult to encourage your spouse? Maybe you feel awkward, uncertain, or even unheard when you offer praise. Perhaps your spouse rejects your encouragement. You might even find yourself thinking (or saying), “I just can’t seem to say anything right!” Sometimes, it’s hard to know what to say. If you’re a person of few words or your personality is more introverted, expressing praise can feel uncomfortable. And if your spouse struggles with low self-esteem or feelings of inadequacy in certain areas, it can be difficult for them to hear and accept encouraging words. In both scenarios, there…
Are you locked in endless money fights with your spouse? Money is a significant topic in marriage. For as long as we can remember, money has been the number one source of conflict for married couples. Fighting about money is inevitable, and at some point, every couple will face a financial disagreement. So how can you proactively work on money issues before they come up? Why Do Money Fights Happen? There are many reasons why money arguments happen. First, money can represent who holds power in the relationship. It can also represent whose needs get met, and when. Money management…
As a married couple, you’ll inevitably run into situations where you just can’t see eye to eye on a topic. You’re going to think, Man, you just don’t get it. Maybe you’ll exhaust yourself trying to convince them of your perspective. So what do you do in these situations? Should you fight with your spouse when you can’t find common ground? Or should you just agree to disagree and move on? If you and your spouse are struggling with frequent arguments and disagreements, it’s possible to calm the chaos. You Can’t Avoid All Conflict No matter how well you and…
You’re married, but your spouse still acts single. They spend more time with their friends than with you, and that’s a frustrating position to be in. How can you convince them to prioritize time with you instead? No one wants to experience loss in order to pursue something new, but marriage is a life commitment. The truth is, it’s impossible to cultivate intimacy in your marriage and still support the kind of time you gave your friendships while you were single. You and your spouse don’t have to give up your friends, but making adjustments is essential. If You’re the…
So you’ve fallen out of “like” with your spouse. What do you do now? Love is such a mysterious experience. It ebbs, flows, and goes through seasons. Married couples sometimes feel they don’t like one another as much as they once did. Even though you love your spouse, it’s possible to dislike things about them. It’s not realistic to expect the full experience of love at all times. That’s because love is made up of many components: respect, companionship, humor, shared experiences, intimacy, and more. In some seasons of life, you may have an imbalance of some of these factors…
