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Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott

Aug 05
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My Spouse Has A Drinking Problem. What Now?

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See if this sounds familiar: Your spouse has been drinking more and more often, and it has nagged at you for a while now. They often seem stressed, and the drinking is worse on hard days. You’ve started to notice a shift in their behavior, and they’re hungover more often than they used to be. Now, you worry that their drinking could affect their ability to work and go about their daily routine. These days, their favorite pastime seems to be drinking on evenings and weekends, and the trend is beyond concerning. Maybe you’ve tried to talk to them about…

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Jul 29
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My Spouse Says I Talk to My Friends Too Much. What Should I Do?

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“Were you on FaceTime with them again?!” You need deep friendships, good conversation, and enriching interactions in your life. The problem is, your spouse says you spend too much time talking to your friends. So when you find yourselves at odds about where you each invest your time, what should you do? Maybe your spouse has criticized the amount of time you spend with friends. Perhaps they’ve questioned why you talk to them so often on the phone or over texts. Friendships are an essential and enriching part of life, so it’s important to you that your spouse understands and…

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Jul 22
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Help! I Need More Privacy Than My Spouse Wants to Give

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Do you crave more privacy than you get in your marriage? This is a common issue for married couples, especially those with personality differences. For instance, if you’re an introvert and your spouse is extroverted, where’s the middle ground? How can you get the privacy you need without hurting their feelings in the process? Every human being has their own “bubble.” We may not be fully aware of ours until after living in close proximity to someone else, such as a roommate or a spouse. While you may have enjoyed sharing space with your spouse during the honeymoon phase, you…

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Jul 15
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My Spouse is a Sore Loser. I’m Tired of Competing!

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Shared activities are a great opportunity to bond with your spouse, enjoy time together, and deepen your relationship. But what happens when your spouse is highly competitive? If your husband or wife tends to be a “sore loser,” how do you navigate that? Most people love winning, but not everyone is highly competitive. For a competitive personality, winning is the whole point of the game. It’s not fun for them unless their fellow players are locked in fierce competition. They love the thrill of going after that win and (proverbially) fighting it out till the end. Some competitive individuals have…

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Jul 08
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Can You Like Your Spouse Without Being in Love With Them?

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“I like my spouse. I’m just not sure I’m in love with them anymore.” Have you ever questioned how deeply you love your spouse? You like them as a person, and you have love for them. It’s still fulfilling and enjoyable to spend time together. But sometimes, you question whether you’re still “in love.” If you’re feeling this way, you’re not alone. Many couples experience ebbs and flows in their emotions over time. Our feelings can shift with life circumstances and major changes. Let’s talk about what can cause feelings to change, and how to navigate these tricky emotions. When…

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Jul 01
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Help, My Spouse is Always So Distant!

By Intimacy 2 Comments

Every afternoon, you arrive home from work excited to see your spouse and share your day with her. You get home about an hour before she does, so you routinely start dinner. That way, there will be plenty of time to connect and catch up while you share a meal. The problem is, your spouse gets home and collapses on the couch. She switches on the TV and zones out. Rather than sharing dinner together, you end up eating it in front of your favorite show. This might be fine once in a while, if only you didn’t feel so…

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Jun 24
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All My Spouse Does is Complain. What’s the Deal?

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Lately, you’ve noticed that your spouse seems to complain more than usual. In fact, most of your interactions involve questioning, complaints, or discontentment they never expressed before. What’s going on? There are many reasons why a spouse might complain. You might have experienced a major change in your life, or they could be facing a midlife crisis. Maybe there’s a circumstance that feels out of their control, and they’re not sure how to find a solution. Whatever the case, it’s important to examine the situation and look for ways to work together toward resolution. Major Life Change Going through major…

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Jun 17
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We Need Marriage Counseling, But My Spouse Is Afraid to Go. What Now?

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If your spouse is unwilling or afraid to go to marriage counseling, what can you do? It’s not uncommon for at least one spouse to resist counseling, at least at first. Reasons can range from fear and denial to unwillingness to participate. Sometimes, one spouse may feel counseling is unnecessary, while the other sees a need for help. You can’t make your spouse attend counseling with you, but you can begin working on your own wellbeing. Often, people ask whether solo counseling will do any good. But here’s the great news: going to counseling on your own can do a…

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Jun 10
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My Spouse Seems Depressed. What Should I Say?

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Lately, you’ve noticed something seems different about your spouse. They’re not their usual selves. Maybe they’re sleeping a lot more, or a lot less, than usual. Perhaps you’ve noticed a change in their appetite. Maybe they’re suddenly skipping all their favorite activities. When you think back, you realize the shift has been happening over time. At first, you brushed it off. But it didn’t get better; in fact, it seems to be getting worse. You’re starting to think that your spouse may have depression. But how can you know? And what can you say or do to help them? Take…

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Jun 03
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I Feel So Lonely in My Marriage. What Can I Do?

By Marriage 3 Comments

Are you struggling with loneliness or social isolation in your marriage? It’s not that your spouse is absent or neglectful. In fact, the two of you enjoy spending time together. But despite date nights and shared activities, you still find yourself wishing for more companionship. Maybe you’ve talked to your spouse about how you’re feeling already, but they don’t quite understand where you’re coming from. Loneliness can affect one or both partners in a marriage at different stages of life, or during different seasons. Knowing how to address these feelings, both individually and as a couple, is the key to…

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