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Help! We’re Stuck at Home Together–What Now?

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So you and your spouse have found yourselves spending an extended period of time in your home together. Maybe one of you is sick, recovering from surgery, or out of work. Perhaps you’re snowed in for a few days. Or, if you’re like many of us around the world right now, you’re self-quarantining in the face of a global pandemic. Whatever the reason, the two of you are suddenly spending a lot more time together at home. It’s important to look at this time as an opportunity to rekindle your bond, deepen your relationship, and make happy memories together. Whether…

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Five Practical and Proactive Things You Can Do At Home

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Dear Friends, We want to help you in some small way. Our family of four (including our college-student son who is now home from Chicago) has gone into full social-distancing mode here in Seattle to help “flatten the curve” of COVID-19. Chances are that your family is doing the same. The good news? We’re seeing a lot more of each other than we normally do. The challenge? Well, we’re seeing a lot more of each other than we normally do! So, how do you create a safe, healthy, and happy home in these difficult days? We’ll leave the medical advice…

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8 Ways to Help Your Spouse Through Anxiety

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Is your spouse experiencing anxiety? Wondering how to help? One in 13 people experience anxiety worldwide, according to the World Health Organization (WHO). So if your spouse is experiencing anxiety, he or she is not alone. People who live with anxiety–whether chronic or situational–need emotional support from those closest to them. That means it’s critical for you to know exactly how to help your spouse through anxiety. We’ve pulled together 8 ways to help your spouse if they’re having anxious thoughts or feelings. Let’s dive in. 1. Just listen. Anxiety is a slow build of churning thoughts and fears that…

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5 Reasons You’re Losing Time in Your Marriage

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During this season of uncertainty in our world, many couples have unexpectedly found themselves with a lot of time to be at home together. This period of self-quarantine and social distancing we’re experiencing right now will likely stand in stark contrast to the craziness of our status quo. It’s no secret that most of the time, many married couples struggle to make enough time for each other. When you’re dating and first falling in love, you spend as much time together as you possibly can. But once you’re married and settled, life takes over, and before you know it, you’re…

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7 Tips for Stress-Free Wedding Planning

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Wedding planning can be an incredibly stressful season in a couple’s life. From dresses and decor to entertainment and catering, there are many facets of your upcoming big day that must be put in place months ahead of time. If you’re looking to reduce wedding-related stress so you can actually enjoy your engagement, we’ve got you covered. Let’s look at a few ways you can dial down the drama in the days leading up to your wedding. 1. Pick your battles carefully When it comes to wedding planning, there are many moving parts–and many opportunities for conflict. Even though it…

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How to Know You’re Ready to Get Married

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Being prepared for your wedding does not mean you’re prepared for marriage. Though getting engaged and planning a wedding is an exciting time for many couples, questions of true marital preparation are often overlooked. It can be difficult to ask yourself hard questions about your relationship during such a happy time. However, knowing whether you’re truly prepared for marriage can save you years of heartache down the road. Let’s look at a few indications that you’re both ready to get married and start your happily-ever-after. 1. You have a long-standing healthy relationship with yourself If you’re well-rounded and secure in…

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Approachability: The Key to Emotional Safety in Marriage

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One of the most loving things you can do in your marriage is to make yourself radically approachable to your spouse. When you’re approachable, you’re open, welcoming, and receptive–and most importantly, your spouse feels safe with you. Your approachability makes others feel like they belong when they’re near you. It makes them feel wanted and included. Making your spouse feel as though he or she belongs with you is one of the most selfless things you can do for them. A behavior modeled by Jesus Approachability was both a behavior and a persona that was modeled by Jesus in Biblical…

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3 Valentine’s Date Ideas to Bring You and Your Spouse Closer

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Valentine’s Day is just a few days away. Have you and your spouse made date night plans yet? There are many great options for Valentine’s dates, but this year we want to focus on a few specific ideas that will help you focus on your love and admiration for one another. Let’s dive right in. 1. Dance together There’s more to dancing than meets the eye, and dancing with your spouse can reignite your spark on multiple levels. You don’t have to go to a ballroom dancing class or public place to let a dance work its magic, either. All…

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Money and Marriage: How to Handle Finances Together

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Money is a hot-button topic in marriage and one of the most common things married couples fight about. It takes money to live–and even more if you have children and many expenses every month. It can be very easy to get out-of-step with one another in the finance arena, especially where debt is concerned. The good news is, there’s plenty you can do to productively navigate conversations around finances and debt in your marriage. Let’s look at a few ways you and your spouse can handle money issues together, without staying in constant conflict over it. Be transparent with one…

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Passive vs. Aggressive Problem Solvers: Which One Are You?

By Communication, Conflict, Marriage, Relationships, Self Reflection One Comment

Do you tackle problems head-on with a burning desire to resolve them as quickly as possible? Or would you rather take your time processing a conflict before you speak up about it? As a step toward constructive problem-solving, it’s important to identify whether you solve problems in a passive or aggressive manner. The type of problem solver you are can easily damage the sense of emotional safety in your marriage, so it’s important for you both to get familiar with your problem-solving style–and then compare notes. The Passive Problem Solver People who prefer to deal with issues passively are content…

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