How You and Your Spouse Can Avoid Holiday Overwhelm Together

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The holidays are here, and if you’re like many other couples, you and your spouse may be feeling a bit overwhelmed already. After all, this time of year gets incredibly busy. There are gifts to buy, meals to prepare, family to visit, and a host of other obligations on your to-do list. If you’re more apprehensive than excited about the weeks to come, you might need to take a fresh approach to celebrating this year. Luckily, you and your spouse are a team. You can work together to avoid holiday overwhelm and make this a season to remember. Read on…

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Is Fighting Allowed In A Christian Marriage?

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Many Christian couples are highly uncomfortable with the idea of disagreeing with one another, much less fighting outright. For many people in the church, the idea of conflict in their marriages is crippling. A common question we’ve been asked is, is fighting allowed in a Christian marriage? The truth is, getting into disagreements and arguments is a common challenge every couple faces. While it’s not inherently wrong to fight, it’s how you fight that dictates whether you’ll be able to solve the problem at hand. So fighting, in and of itself, isn’t necessarily wrong in a Christian marriage; it’s whether…

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How Do I Avoid Marrying Someone Like My Mom Or Dad?

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Are you worried about marrying someone like one of your parents? It’s common for people to fear partnering with someone like their mom or dad, particularly if that relationship was strained or difficult growing up. If that’s your worry, then what steps can you take to ensure you are marrying a person who is a good fit for you? Wanting to avoid marrying someone who reminds you of a parent is not unusual. But it pays to put things in perspective and get clear on what you really want in a spouse, and in a relationship. Consider What Qualities You’re…

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4 Essential Tips You Need To Know Before Marriage

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There is so much to learn and experience through marriage, from the moment you say “I do.” Over the decades, you will learn more about yourself, one another, and the dynamics of marriage than anyone could ever tell you. Still, it’s helpful to understand certain aspects of this incredible relationship in order to set your expectations before you get married. Whether you’re dating, engaged, or planning to marry someday, there are a few essential tips you need to know before you walk down the aisle. These simple tips will make all the difference in how you experience this new chapter…

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Help! My Spouse Cheated On Me. That Means They’ll Do It Again, Right?

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If your spouse has cheated on you, then you’ve likely heard the phrase, “Once a cheater, always a cheater.” But is that sentiment always true? You may be surrounded by people who have your best interests at heart, feel hurt by what your spouse has done, and want to help protect you from future repetition of the same harm. And while there may be merit to the statement–and in some situations, there is–it’s important to look at your individual circumstances objectively first. Affairs are incredibly painful situations that cause deep pain and damage to marriages. The ability to recover from…

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3 Strategies For Successfully Managing Anger in Marriage

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Marriage typically tends to produce more anger than other relationships. Perhaps this is because spending so much time with another person naturally generates more opportunities to become angry. We also put down our guard with our spouse — the person we love most. While being vulnerable and unguarded allows for greater intimacy, it also opens the door to more anger and frustration. Although every married couple will experience anger toward one another, it should still be kept in check. After all, how we manage our emotions directly affects our relationships, particularly the closest ones. Add disappointment, unmet expectations, and other…

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Does Keeping Secrets Make A Marriage Unhealthy?

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Does keeping secrets in marriage make it inherently unhealthy? Over our years of marriage, and our years counseling married and engaged couples, we’ve found the answer to be both nuanced and subjective. The truth is, the idea that a couple should never keep secrets sounds and feels good at the surface level–but can a marriage really handle an overflow of transparency at all times? Many of us grew up believing that there are no secrets in a healthy marriage. We come to believe that spouses should tell one another everything, no matter what–hiding no details and laying everything out in…

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One Important Thing Healthy Married Couples Seek

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In healthy marriages, there’s one important thing that spouses consistently seek. This perspective positively impacts the tone of every interaction in their relationship. When a couple pursues this in their marriage, it can make a tremendous difference in their dynamic over the years. So what are these healthy couples doing to help keep their marriages happy and harmonious? They’re consistently looking for the good in one another. Look for the Good in One Another Couples who want to develop a healthier, more positive relationship put effort into seeking one another’s good qualities. Looking for the best qualities in your spouse…

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How to Embrace a New Season in Your Marriage

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Every couple experiences many seasons of life over the course of their marriage. All these seasons can be related to stages of life, major changes, challenges, stress, loss, abundance, and even the natural cycles that we experience throughout the year. When our marriages enter a new season, we must be able to embrace it in order to continue moving forward together in a healthy way. In this post, we’re going to share a few ways that you can embrace a new season in your marriage. Let’s read on to learn how. 1. Honor the past, but leave it behind. Often,…

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3 Ways to Reignite Your Sex Life for More Intimacy and Fun

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Most married couples will experience challenges to their intimacy from time to time. Whether difficult circumstances or busy routines are putting a damper on your alone time, it’s common to have ebbs and flows in your sex life. The key to overcoming intimacy challenges is to intentionally spend time getting closer. Want to reignite your sex life with your spouse for more intimacy and fun? In this post, we’ll explore a few ways you can do just that. Let’s dive right in. 1. Do an intimacy check-in with your spouse. Occasionally, have a check-in with your spouse to gauge both…

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