How to Back Your Empathy with Action

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Empathy is more than just taking an internal walk in your partner’s shoes. Instead, real empathy requires action. Without action, empathy won’t go very far in your relationship. As James D. Parker said, “Empathy alone matters little if we fail to act.” Empathy is transformative. It helps us see, hear, and understand one another like nothing else. And, when properly cultivated, it inspires action. We must back our empathy with action if we want to show our spouses how much we truly love them. So how can we back our empathy with action? Let’s dive in. 1. Set aside your…

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3 Truths About Anger Everyone Should Know

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Anger is a natural part of being human, but it can also become destructive when uncontrolled. Likewise, anger is a natural part of conflict. It’s important that we understand how to manage anger so that we can effectively manage conflicts in our marriages and other interpersonal relationships. Anger tends to be the result of a perceived injustice against us. When improperly processed and communicated, anger can damage relationships–sometimes irreversibly. Uncontrolled anger can muddy the waters of a good fight and prevent us from getting to the core of the issue at hand. Let’s look at a few truths about anger…

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3 Ways to Make Loving Like Jesus a Habit

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“We are what we repeatedly do.” – Aristotle Not only in marriage, but in life, we need to love like Jesus did. Loving like Jesus allows us to step into all seasons and circumstances with the ability to love with mindfulness, approachability, grace, boldness, and selflessness. If we want to love like that automatically, we have to make it a habit. Although we as humans are not perfect and can’t expect to be, we can cultivate the habit of actively loving like Jesus. It takes time and intentionality, but it can be done–and your relationships will reap its rewards. Let’s…

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How Facts vs. Feelings Influence Your Spouse

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In marriage, spouses influence one another significantly–both consciously and unconsciously. Knowing whether your spouse is more influenced by facts or by feelings can add a great deal of productivity to your conversations. We’re all influenced primarily by either facts or feelings. When spouses’ primary points of influence clash, this can lead to difficulties in communication. But when we know the driving force behind one another’s primary influences, we can better anticipate how to communicate successfully. So how do you determine whether your spouse is influenced by feelings or facts? How to Know if Your Spouse is Influenced by Facts People…

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7 Secrets to a Peaceful, Fun Engagement

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Engagement can be a roller coaster of emotions, both good and bad. Suddenly, you and your fiance have gone from being a carefree dating couple to planning a wedding. Often, wedding planning comes with a fair amount of stress, even though it can also be fun. And let’s not forget family pressures that crop up. Being engaged is a season that’s all about building anticipation for your upcoming wedding and the future you’re planning together. Today, we’re talking about seven secrets to keeping your engagement peaceful and fun. 1. Remember why you’re here. If you’re in the midst of planning…

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What Smart Love Looks Like, and Why It’s Important

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In order to forge healthy relationships, it’s crucial to practice something we like to call smart love. Smart love allows us to make intelligent and informed decisions in all our relationships–ultimately strengthening and improving them. Today, we’re taking a look at what smart looks like, and a few ways you can practice it in your own relationships. It applies to relationships of all kinds, but for today’s purposes, we’ll focus on dating and engagement. Smart Love is Patient and Discerning Patience and discernment are incredibly important components of smart love. That’s because smart love is determined to find a good…

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6 Tips and Ideas for Your Small Wedding Ceremony

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Are you and your fiance planning a small wedding ceremony? Whether you’ve planned a small wedding from the beginning of your engagement or have found yourself changing your plans, there are several things you can consider to make the experience memorable. Many couples opt for a small wedding for different reasons. Some choose to keep the budget and the guest list to a minimum because of how they’ve prioritized their spending. Others choose to elope. Still others may be faced with circumstances such as illness that prevent them from planning a large gathering. During this unusual season of collectively facing…

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How Overcoming Insecurity Leads to Healthier Relationships

By Relationships, Self Reflection 4 Comments

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt Part of being an emotionally and psychologically healthy individual–and thus, having healthier relationships–is overcoming insecurity. Insecurity is a problem that plagues countless people worldwide, and it really hampers our ability to relate well with one another. Psychological health is largely an inside job, and insecurity is a psychologically unhealthy state to live in. Being psychologically healthy means we’re healthy in our spirit, character, feelings, and thoughts. But when we’re insecure, our thoughts don’t tend to be very healthy. Today, we’re taking a look at how overcoming insecurity…

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5 Ways Fear Sabotages Emotional Health

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In order to become emotionally healthy, we have to root out and face the things we’re afraid of. Many of the things we’re chronically afraid of are not obvious, so it’s our job to be honest with ourselves as we begin to uncover them. The hidden fears that hurt our relationships with ourselves and our loved ones are often tied to goals and dreams we’d love to pursue. And when we don’t pursue what we love, it hurts our authenticity, consequently, our relationships. Let’s take a look at 5 ways fear sabotages our emotional health–and how to overcome it. 1….

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3 Reasons Why It’s Time to Take Control of Your Emotional Health

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Our emotional, psychological, and spiritual health influences every person we come into contact with–especially our spouse. Strong relationships are dependent upon our ability to feel truly significant, complete, and selfless as individuals. We all have the power to take control of our emotional health–and, in turn, our relationships. There are many things you can do to nurture your health in these areas, and investing that time and effort in yourself will pay dividends not only now, but in the future as well. Here are three reasons why it’s time to take control of your emotional, psychological, and spiritual health. 1….

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