Healthy Holidays: How Focusing On Your Well-Being Can Help Your Marriage Thrive


During the holidays, we don’t always emphasize good health. But being psychologically, emotionally, and spiritually healthy sets the stage for enjoyable family interactions and holiday celebrations throughout the season. In this post, we’re sharing a few ways you can focus on your own well-being during the holidays – to the benefit of your marriage and family.

Give Yourself the Gift of Healthy Self-Talk

We don’t often pay enough attention to our self-talk, but it’s a key component to becoming a healthier person. When we speak to ourselves with love and respect, we’re more likely to be loving and respectful toward others. Start the holidays off right with a little kind, loving self-talk to set a healthy tone.

Don’t Dredge Up Painful Past Memories

Part of your psychological and emotional health is learning how to leave the past in the past. During the holidays, past disagreements often rise to the surface. This is true in marriages, as well as among extended family members.

It’s important to acknowledge the truth of the past within yourself, and sometimes to clear the air with loved ones. But if possible, allow the holidays to be a happy time of year. Growing closer together through shared joy will pave the way for conflict resolution at the appropriate time.

Be Lovingly Honest With Yourself and Your Spouse

When sharing truths – especially difficult ones – it’s always best to do so in a loving way. This holiday season, why not set the tone by wrapping all your honesty in love? When you and your spouse are able to be lovingly honest with each other, you’ll create a healthier emotional environment in your relationship.

Emotional health and safety are so important in marriage. During the holidays, the need for that safety and care becomes much more apparent. And, in line with our section about self-talk, don’t forget to also show that loving honesty to yourself.

Tap Into Empathy, Especially When Holiday Stress Arises

When you feel frustrated with your spouse or family members during the holidays, take a moment to practice true empathy. When you take a walk in your loved ones’ shoes, you’ll have an easier time understanding their point of view. Many people get attached to certain yearly traditions and ways of doing things, for instance, and it’s sometimes important to compromise.

Practicing empathy in a more intentional way will help you to be more freely self-giving. That’s an important theme this time of year. It truly is better to give than to receive.

Embrace Love and Better Health This Holiday Season – and All Year Long

If you want to be healthier, happier, and more loving all year long, taking better care of your emotional and psychological wellbeing is a must. Our Healthy Me, Healthy Us and Love Like That Bundle will help get you and your spouse started on the right foot just in time for the holidays. These books are geared toward helping you create happier, more loving relationships – in your marriage and beyond.

How do you focus on your own well-being during the holidays so that you can show up as the best version of yourself? Let us know in the comments section below.

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