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Help! My Spouse Is Attracted To Someone Else

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“Honey, if I die first, who would you want to marry?” “If we hadn’t married, who would you have ended up with?” “Do you find anyone else attractive? Who?” Every couple has moments and conversations they’d rather take back. Discussing the possibility of being with someone else in the future can create tremendous insecurity and anxiety. That’s true even if the conversation wasn’t entirely serious. Some thoughts are best left unspoken, and can’t be taken back once they’re said. Knowing your spouse could be attracted to someone else is painful and upsetting, even in the most secure relationships. If you…

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Why Personality Impacts Your Love Languages

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Did you know your personality can impact how you give and receive your primary Love Languages™? At first glance, the 5 Love Languages®—Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, and Physical Touch—seem straightforward. But our unique personality traits can influence how we experience our primary Love Languages. Demonstrating those languages for your partner can quickly reveal their complexity. For instance, a spontaneous road trip might not feel like quality time a cautious planner can happily receive. And an introverted person may want to experience physical touch, such as displays of affection, in private. Personality also affects how…

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How to Master Multiple Love Languages

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Is it possible to master multiple Love Languages™? We’ve discussed the idea that everyone experiences their Love Languages in unique ways. For instance, two individuals can have Words of Affirmation as their primary Love Language. But depending on personality and preferences, affirming words must be delivered in specific ways to resonate. For instance, an introvert might not appreciate publicly broadcast affirmations, but an extrovert would love that. A surface understanding of Love Languages isn’t enough to truly meet one another’s needs. We need to invest time and effort in fine-tuning them for each other. If that’s the case, how is…

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My Spouse Has “Selective Hearing.” What Do I Do?

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Does your spouse tune you out? Selective hearing is a common issue among married couples. Maybe your spouse only hears what they want to hear. It’s frustrating to realize your communication only seems to land occasionally. You might want to talk to your spouse about certain topics, interactions, or events they’re not interested in. Or, you might have a honey-do list you’d like them to complete. The problem is, they always seem to tune you out. So what can you do? Is Your Spouse Deliberately Tuning You Out? First, consider whether your spouse is deliberately tuning you out. It’s true…

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Help! How Can I Fill My Spouse’s Low Love Tank?

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If your spouse’s love tank is low, how do you refill it? Everyone has an emotional reservoir we like to call a “love tank.” Each person’s tank needs the right fuel, and what that fuel is can change from one season to the next. The love tank varies from person to person, depending on your individual life experiences and needs. The longer you’re with your spouse, the better you’ll understand their love tank, and vice versa. It’s crucial to understand how their love tank works, what causes it to empty, and how you can fill it back up again. Let’s…

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Lost in Translation: When Your Spouse’s Love Language Doesn’t Land

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What do you do when your spouse doesn’t respond to their Love Language™? If you’re familiar with Dr. Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages®, you might already know your spouse’s Love Language™. Maybe you even feel fluent in your spouse’s primary languages. But what happens when your spouse doesn’t respond the way you hoped? To quickly recap (or get you up to speed) the 5 Love Languages are: Acts of Service Receiving Gifts Quality Time Words of Affirmation Physical Touch We tend to naturally lean toward two primary Love Languages, which fill our “Love Tank” and help us feel fulfilled in…

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My Spouse Loves Valentine’s Day, But I Don’t. Should I Change?

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Valentine’s Day is almost here, and maybe it’s not your favorite holiday. If your spouse loves to celebrate Valentine’s Day, but you don’t, what’s the solution? Should you change, or should your spouse just get used to how you feel? Some people see Valentine’s Day as the commercialization of love. They might feel the holiday obligates them to do something special or romantic. Others might have unpleasant memories from childhood associated with Valentine’s Day. Regardless of your reasons, you’re not alone. Still, part of being married is making compromises for one another. If your spouse truly loves Valentine’s Day, then…

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How Can I Stop My Spouse From Interrupting Conversations?

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Is your spouse a chronic interruptor? Do you dread talking on the phone when your spouse is nearby? Does your spouse tend to jump in the middle of your conversations—or worse, dominate them? And does that interruption derail your chat entirely, or force an end to the original interaction? Interrupting conversations is Control Freak behavior. Even if it’s a seemingly small quirk among your spouse’s many good qualities, it’s worth addressing. While you want to avoid becoming controlling too, there are a few things you can do to call your spouse’s attention to the problem. Before we move on, let’s…

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Should I Point Out My Spouse’s Weird Quirks?

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If your spouse’s quirks bother you, should you point them out? Can you ask your spouse to change the things that irritate you? In marriage, we share a level of intimacy that can sometimes seem a bit invasive. It’s almost like living with a mirror that reflects how others perceive and receive us. Being oblivious to that can feel blissful, because we don’t have to understand or process how our quirks come across to others. Maybe your spouse is blissfully unaware of how agitated you are. They might have a habit that’s embarrassing in public, like smacking gum at dinner,…

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My Spouse Let Their Appearance Go. What Can I Say?

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What happens when your spouse stops caring for their appearance as they once did? For many people, physical attractiveness is an incredibly important part of romantic relationships. Though we grow and change together over the course of marriage, we want to remain attracted to one another. When your spouse’s appearance changes, it can be distressing. Maybe you’re missing that aspect of the person you fell in love with. You might even be feeling less physically attracted to your spouse. And you might worry that this isn’t just a phase, and it will last indefinitely. Is there anything you can say…

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