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My Spouse Swears When We Fight. How Can I Make It Stop?

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Does your spouse use profanity when you fight? Is there a way to stop it? Unfortunately, when emotions are running high, some individuals use offensive language. Maybe it’s just habit, or maybe they’re venting their frustrations. If you’re uncomfortable with swearing, though, it’s hurtful to hear those words. Offensive language is degrading to hear. If swearing has never been part of your life, it’s jarring to hear profanity from the person you love most–especially in the heat of conflict. It’s hard enough to argue with your spouse, especially if you’re newlyweds. But adding offensive language to the mix takes it…

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When Is The “Right Time” For Hard Conversations In Marriage?

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Is there ever a “right time” to have a hard conversation with your spouse? Deciding when to have a difficult discussion can be a challenge. Tough topics can rock the boat, disturbing the sense of peace between you. Even though you want to bring up a particular issue with your spouse, you might put it off to avoid discomfort. The thing is, putting hard conversations on hold will compound the problem over time. It’s important to commit to having the conversation sooner rather than later, if possible. Then, it’s time to decide on a time to talk to your spouse….

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Help! We Can’t Stop Arguing About Money

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Are you locked in endless money fights with your spouse? Money is a significant topic in marriage. For as long as we can remember, money has been the number one source of conflict for married couples. Fighting about money is inevitable, and at some point, every couple will face a financial disagreement. So how can you proactively work on money issues before they come up? Why Do Money Fights Happen? There are many reasons why money arguments happen. First, money can represent who holds power in the relationship. It can also represent whose needs get met, and when. Money management…

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Should I Agree to Disagree With My Spouse?

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As a married couple, you’ll inevitably run into situations where you just can’t see eye to eye on a topic. You’re going to think, Man, you just don’t get it. Maybe you’ll exhaust yourself trying to convince them of your perspective. So what do you do in these situations? Should you fight with your spouse when you can’t find common ground? Or should you just agree to disagree and move on? If you and your spouse are struggling with frequent arguments and disagreements, it’s possible to calm the chaos. You Can’t Avoid All Conflict No matter how well you and…

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My Spouse Betrayed Me. Is It Fair to Make Them Pay?

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Is revenge justified when your spouse betrays you? Whatever happened, this betrayal was devastating to your emotional wellbeing. It affected important aspects of your life and made moving forward incredibly difficult. If your spouse hurt you that deeply, is it fair to make them pay for what they did? Shouldn’t they have to suffer, too? Betrayal is one of life’s most painful experiences. That’s especially true when it happens within a marriage. Some betrayals are easier to overcome than others. Still, they’re all painful enough to make even the kindest, most patient person want revenge. Revenge Won’t Repair Your Heart…

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I Hide Hard Feelings From My Spouse. Can I Avoid Conflict Forever?

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Do you hide hard feelings from your spouse? Many of us prefer to ignore conflict, or have none at all. It’s understandable that you want to keep the peace. Staying silent feels like the safer option when you don’t want to fight with your spouse. The thing is, conflict has its place. When you and your spouse don’t see eye to eye on an issue, it’s going to lead to friction. Avoiding friction completely won’t make it go away. Instead, hiding your hard feelings can create an undercurrent of compounding issues. Avoiding Conflict Makes Problems Worse You might not think…

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My Spouse Guilts Me In Front of Friends and Family. Is That Fair?

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Does your spouse guilt you in front of friends and family? It’s great to have a shared friend group, or to be close with family. There’s comfort and intimacy in close relationships. But sometimes, spouses bring up grievances against each other in these settings. Your spouse might do this in a way that seems lighthearted or well-intentioned to others. To you, though, it feels like an embarrassing guilt trip. Guilt trips can be masked as concern, jokes, or prayer requests. Sometimes they’re an indirect way to air out hard feelings, and are often intended to inspire some kind of change…

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Let’s Talk Later: How And When To Pause A Difficult Discussion

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How and when should you pause a difficult conversation with your spouse? At one time or another, every married couple will experience a prolonged conflict. At the very least, you’ll face difficult discussions you can’t wrap up in one afternoon. These conflicts and disagreements can come at inconvenient times in your life, when you can’t give your full attention to discussing and resolving them right away. Trying to force conflict resolution can complicate problems, rather than solving them. When you pause difficult discussions, you can come back calmer, and with a clearer perspective. Giving yourselves plenty of breathing room also…

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Stability Matters To Me, But My Spouse Isn’t Worried. What Can I Do?

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So you want stability, but your partner’s not worried. What can you do about that? Stability looks different for different people. For instance, some are concerned with being financially stable. Others want a sense of permanence in the place where they live and raise a family. And others connect the idea of stability with a longstanding job or career path. In some marriages, one partner puts more emphasis on stability than the other. When this happens, it can cause marital stress. Each spouse may have different expectations when it comes to stability, so it’s important to develop empathy for each…

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My Spouse Says I Always Keep Score. Who’s Right?

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What’s “fair” in marriage? Do you and your spouse keep score? We like to say that scorekeeping is for sports, not for marriage. There’s no scoreboard in your living room, and no referees calling each play. It’s just you and your spouse–and if you’re not playing on the same team, you’re headed for conflict. Do you feel like you’re carrying more than your share of the load in your marriage? If so, how can you find a better balance? Let’s talk about it. Scorekeeping Holds You Both Back Scorekeeping in marriage holds both you and your spouse back. It keeps…

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