Faith & Fighting: Is it OK to Argue in a Christian Marriage?

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Somewhere along the way, a little lie snuck its way into Christian culture, whispering that couples who are truly following God simply won’t fight. That a Christ-centered marriage means an always peaceful marriage. That good, church-going husbands and wives should not encounter discord. The truth? It is absolutely OK to argue within a Christian marriage. And in fact, not only is it OK, but it’s actually good–when fair, mature, and under the right circumstances. Here are three reasons why fighting is not only OK, but also fruitful. It’s OK because fighting well allows us to live under realistic expectations. We’re…

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How to Reignite Your Spark and Fall in Love All Over Again

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How to Fall Back In Love With Your Spouse Over time, it can be easy to stop getting to know your spouse over and over again. You might think your husband or wife hasn’t changed, even after years of marriage–and maybe you’ve become bored. Chances are, you’ve lost sight of one another’s passions and interest, and you have probably missed some changes in one another along the way. In this video, we address the issue of boredom in marriage, and offer simple (but powerful) solutions that will help you reignite your spark and fall in love all over again. Have…

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5 Layers of a Good Marriage

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A strong marriage may seem simple and easy from the outside looking in, but in reality, there are many factors that must work together in harmony to create a stable, lasting marriage. It’s complex, yet so simple–but each element is essential for your relationship to thrive. In this post, we’ll explore 5 important layers of a good marriage: characteristics that will carry you and your spouse through many happy, fulfilled decades together. 1. Friendship A critical element of any successful marriage is the foundation of a solid friendship between you and your husband or wife. Becoming friends with your spouse…

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Can there be TOO much Truth in Marriage?

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How Much Truth is Too Much? Being open and honest with your spouse is one of the most important components of a successful marriage, but it’s possible to present the truth in such a way that it is hurtful. Wounding your husband or wife with “truth” will damage your relationship, creating distance between the two of you in the process. In this video, we share our thoughts about speaking the truth in love, and maintaining a godly attitude in the process. Are you and your spouse comfortable being completely truthful with one another in love? Have you experienced “too much…

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5 Ways to Overcome Ruts In Your Marriage

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There is an inevitable “honeymoon” stage in every marriage: the time when you can’t imagine getting irritated by your spouse not replacing the toilet paper roll, where you overlook the crazy in-laws, and where marriage is smooth sailing. It may vary from couple to couple, but eventually we settle into the routines and demands of life. It can be hard to recognize at first, but every marriage will eventually come face-to-face with being in a rut. The problem with getting into a rut in your marriage, like any other time in life, is that it often happens gradually and can…

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Should I marry someone with a different cultural or religious background?

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Can people of different religions and cultures have happy and successful lives together? So you’re considering marriage to a person of a different religion and/or culture. Can your relationship work long-term, given the challenges you know you’ll inevitably face as a couple, and as possible future parents? In this video, we discuss the obstacles that couples from different cultural and religious backgrounds face, and offer suggestions for successfully navigating through them together. If you and your spouse are of different religions or cultures, what difficulties have you faced and overcome together? Have you been able to maintain your unity as…

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5 Ways to Care for Your Husband

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Investing in your marriage by caring for your husband is essential to his (and your) well being. In the noise and clutter of life, nurturing him could easily fall by the wayside; as his wife, you must create daily habits that not only help keep the two of you connected, but strengthen your bond as well. You love your husband dearly–but what are some great ways to translate your feelings for him into action? Today we’ll share five tips to help you show your husband how much you adore him. 1. Affirm Him One of the most important things you…

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When Things Go Unsaid: Managing the Risks of Unspoken Expectations

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How can my spouse and I understand expectations and roles in our marriage? Every person has a list of unspoken rules and unconscious roles that they live by, and these unsaid expectations which can create confusing and potentially dangerous situations in a new marriage. We often even don’t know we’re living by these norms until our spouse begins to break our rules about how life and marriage should go. In this video, we dig into the topic of roles and expectations in marriage, and how to address your own unspoken rules to prevent them from derailing your relationship. How have…

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Finding Rest Together: 5 Steps Toward Sabbath with Your Spouse

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Have the demands of your personal and professional life found you echoing, “I’m too busy to find time to rest”? Is your business becoming a badge of honor? Are your children’s needs overrunning your calendar? Are your community activities dominating your days? Is lack of time and rest causing distance between you and your spouse? Time is one of the most important resources that we have; yet in this day and age, it’s becoming more monopolized by business and family than it is stewarded well with intention and care. Society today meets us with more pressure to succeed, and we…

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Partnering in ʺNoʺ… Helping My Wife Create Space and Reduce Stress

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My Wife Cannot Say “No” to Anyone. She is a Mess with Stress. How Do I Help Her? It’s difficult to watch the person you love most overextend themselves and lose control of their life because they have no boundaries. A person who never says “no” will eventually burn out from exhaustion, and it’s important for his or her spouse to recognize when it’s time to intervene. In this video, we discuss ideas for helping your spouse set healthy boundaries on external demands in order to alleviate stress and exhaustion. Does your spouse have a difficult time saying no? How…

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