Do Men And Women Speak Different Languages?

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Sometimes it feels like we are speaking different languages. What I think I said isn’t what he heard and vice-versa. Maybe if I knew just how men and woman communicate differently, I could do something about it. What are the differences in communication between men and women? Only recently have researchers begun to understand how drastically different men and women communicate. Deborah Tannen and other sociolinguists have come to believe that the genders speak so differently, in fact, that they can be considered different languages — or at least different “genderlects.” In her ground-breaking book, You Just Don’t Understand, Tannen…

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God said, 'It’s not good for the Man to be alone; I’ll make him a helper, a companion.'

Genesis 2:18

The 5 Essentials to Great Communication

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Nearly every couple we talk to says that communication is the key to a successful marriage. But when we ask these same couples what “good communication” is, we get a lot of foggy answers. Can you pin-point the most essential parts of good communication for us? With so many thick books on communication, it is sometimes difficult to cut through the clutter and sum it all up. The following is our attempt: Send clear and accurate messages. Precise and unambiguous statements facilitate good communication, while imprecise and ambiguous statements hinder it. Consider the difference between these two statements: “You hurt…

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Relish life with the spouse you love each and every day of your precarious life.

Ecclesiastes 9:8

How To Avoid Pre-Marriage Mode With Family

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When my spouse and I meet with his family, he completely ignores me. I mean it’s like I’m not even at the dinner table. He isn’t mean or degrading, it’s just that all of his attention is on his family, not me. On the drive home from his parent’s house the last time this happened, I brought it to his attention and he didn’t even know what I was talking about. What can I do to improve this situation? We’ve struggled with this same problem ourselves. It used to be that whenever we went to Les’s home, he shifted into…

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Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.

1 Peter 4:8

Why Conflict Isn’t So Bad

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When we were dating we had a fight every now and then, but that pales in comparison to what it’s been like since we’ve been married. I know some couples who say they never fight and that makes me all the more nervous about my marriage. Does having conflicts mean that we will get a divorce? Like you, we have heard some mature couples, married for decades, who say that in all their years of marriage they have never had one single fight. Pretty impressive, huh? But in all honesty, we often wonder about these couples. They seem so proud,…

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Be completely humble and gentle; Be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the spirit through the bond of peace.

Ephesians 4:2-3