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Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott

May 04
Love37

9 Things to Consider Before Saying “I Do”

By Communication, Conflict, In-laws & Family, Scripture, Self Reflection, Time 2 Comments

The dating and engagement periods of your relationship are a beautiful time for both of you. Romance is blossoming, you’re building dreams together, and anything seems possible. Often, when we’re dating or engaged, we overlook some important areas of our lives that we need to consider before we walk down the aisle. In the haze of falling in love and promising happily-ever-afters, these 9 things (that you seriously need to consider!) often fall by the wayside. Goals Before you take the leap into the lifelong covenant of marriage, it’s important to consider the goals and dreams that both of you…

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Apr 29
Love23

How to Make Your Husband Feel Genuinely Loved

By Communication, Conflict, Self Reflection, Time No Comments

What is the most effective way a wife can communicate love to her husband? If you want to make your husband (or wife) feel genuinely loved, where do you begin? All of us receive love in different ways; this is widely known as the concept of “love languages.” If you learn to speak your spouse’s love language, you can connect with them on a much deeper level. Connecting with your spouse and making them feel truly, deeply loved involves carefully considering what would be most effective. Take some time to recall things you’ve done for your husband or wife that…

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Apr 27
Love38

How to Stop Controlling Your Spouse

By Communication, Conflict, Self Reflection, Time 70 Comments

Why do we try to stay in control? Often, when we’re trying to control others (in this case, our spouse), we’re acting out of fear. Perhaps it’s fear of the unknown, or just the simple fear of not getting something that we deeply desire. Whatever the case, the primary motivating factor in controlling behavior is often fear. Fear itself can have many different triggers. If you’ve been betrayed by your spouse in the past (in the case of infidelity–or any other breach of trust, for that matter), you might resort to control in order to alleviate your fear of further…

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Apr 22
Love12

Extreme Husband: Protecting His Personality and Well-being

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My husband is an adrenaline junkie. How do I get him to slow down without quenching his personality? So your spouse is addicted to adrenaline–something that research has proven to be a biological tendency in some people. You might be uncomfortable with your spouse’s propensity for high-speed, risky activities. But it’s important to understand that you’re probably never going to change his or her basic need for speed and risk-taking. We all have different energy levels, and different activities and experiences that excite us. These preferences–needs, even–are built into the very fabric of our being. You want to respect who…

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Apr 20
Love26

Why you should eliminate the word “Always” from your marriage

By Communication, Conflict, Self Reflection, Time 5 Comments

Do these phrases sound familiar? “You always interrupt me.” “You always put __________ before me.” “You always forget.” Making absolute accusations to or about your spouse will get you nowhere fast. We have all done it (probably more than once!), but “always” is a word we throw around that must, without a doubt, be eliminated from our relationship vocabulary–especially when it comes to communicating with our spouse. Words can be both building blocks and bulldozers. You can spend days, months, and years using positive and encouraging words toward your spouse, only to shake your solid foundation with a careless phrase…

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Apr 15
Love19

The Hard Work of Spiritual Intimacy

By Communication, Conflict, Scripture, Self Reflection No Comments

We go to church and spend time with Christian couples. Is there more to being spiritually intimate? Spiritual intimacy is one of the most important–yet least discussed–aspects of marital health and well being. While you and your spouse may share many interests, be deeply in love, and be on the same page in many parts of your lives, getting in sync on a spiritual level often proves to be much more challenging. Research has proven that a close spiritual bond is of the utmost importance in marriage. Spiritual intimacy represents a couple’s deepest core values, mission, and passion for life….

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Apr 13
Love83
Ground Rules for Restoring Broken Trust

Ground Rules for Restoring Broken Trust

By Communication, Conflict, In-laws & Family, Scripture, Self Reflection 97 Comments

When trust has been damaged or destroyed in a marriage, the rebuilding process takes a huge amount of patience, skill, and–above all–time. After your very foundation has been shaken, restoring trust in your marriage is literally a relationship makeover. You and your spouse must work together over time to rebuild the trust you lost, and both of you have a lot of work to do to get there. But with determination and an absolute commitment to restoration, your marriage can be healthy again. You might not realize it now, but if you’ve been betrayed by your spouse, you can begin…

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Apr 08
Love20

What to Do When Your Kids Want You to Date Again

By Communication, Conflict, In-laws & Family, Self Reflection, Time No Comments

I have been divorced for two years and have teenage kids. They want me to date. Is it too soon? What do you do when you’ve recently gone through a divorce–and your kids are encouraging you to date again? Typically, children (of all ages) are resistant to the idea of a single parent dating. Divorce turns a family’s world upside down and inside-out, and often the idea of welcoming a new love interest on the scene is unpalatable for the kids–and unsettling for the single parent, even if the desire for a new relationship exists. If your own children are…

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Apr 06
Love31

When Your Spouse Won’t Listen

By Communication, Conflict, In-laws & Family, Scripture, Self Reflection 22 Comments

We all desire to be seen and heard. It is true at work, in our relationships, and most especially with our spouses. Fewer things are more empowering than articulating thoughts that are heard, received, considered and used to grow our relationships. On the contrary, not feeling heard disempowers, erodes and stunts our relationships from maturing. Worse, if it happens over a period of time it can lead to anger, distance and apathy. So what do you do if your spouse won’t listen to you? If you find yourself in that situation, you likely feel frustrated, at best–and entitled, at worst….

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Apr 01
Love11

The Big Question: Helping My Husband Balance Work and Home

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How do I give my hard-working husband support while still keeping him involved in daily activities? These days, it’s a challenge for hard-working spouses to balance all aspects of life comfortably. We’re all busy and pulled in many different directions on any given day. With jobs and outside activities tugging us this way and that, struggling to stay involved at home can take a huge toll on marriages and families. As a wife, you’re sincerely invested in helping your husband to stay involved in the everyday details of home life, and you’re looking for ways to strike that healthy balance…

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