Why do women get a free pass to act however they want during PMS–and we men just have to put up with it?
Trust me (Leslie)–women do not want to act out of character during premenstrual syndrome (PMS)…that lovely time of the month before “that time of the month.” You’d be hard-pressed to find any woman who relishes the upheaval of hormones and emotions that occurs during PMS. It’s really a miserable thing to experience.
In today’s video, I’m talking to husbands about constructive ways to handle their wives’ PMS.
PMS is an illness with no external symptoms, but on the inside, the woman experiencing it is completely rearranged. The symptoms of PMS vary from one woman to the next, but one thing is clear: PMS changes a woman’s ability to respond to life. (This isn’t necessarily across the board; many women do not experience severe PMS. But for the ones who do, it’s life-altering while it lasts.)
That being said, having PMS doesn’t give women a free pass to act awful for several days out of the month. And believe me, women are more relieved than anyone else when their internal world realigns, and everything is in a healthier balance again.
If your wife’s PMS is causing a major catastrophe in your home every month, it would be a good idea for her to seek a physician’s counsel. A doctor can prescribe medication to ease the symptoms, or even specific hormones to help minimize the impact of PMS.
Remember to show empathy to your wife. She most likely hates this time of the month more than you do! When there is more empathy between you, there will be less drama. Keep your chin up and rise to the challenge; with a little help from you–and maybe your doctor–your wife’s monthly roller coaster could get much, much easier for both of you.
Has PMS been a major problem in your marriage? How did you address it? We’d love to hear from you in the comments.