How can I get my wife to pay more attention to time? She’s always late and it’s embarrassing!
This reminds us of a song by Brad Paisley called “Waitin’ on a Woman”…except it seems that you do mind waiting. It sounds like your wife’s chronic lateness is really getting to you! So is there anything you can do about it?
In today’s video, we’re discussing strategies for becoming more aware of your approach to time…and what to do about it.
All of us have our own time style. Some people have a harder time managing their schedules than others do. While some people seem to feel as though they’re late if they don’t arrive early, others are always flying by the seat of their pants and arriving either late, or at the very last minute.
Your wife is probably focused mainly on what is going on right here, right now. It sounds like she’s feelings-oriented, and not objective about her time. When your time style is that focused on feelings, you just aren’t as organized.
People with time styles like your wife’s tend to feel the day out. They try to accommodate things that come up at the last minute, and they’re very invested in being flexible and available for any sudden changes in the daily routine (if they have a routine they follow closely).
One way to help your wife tune into her own approach to time (and to tune into your own!) is to sit down together and take our Time Style Assessment. This assessment will help generate good conversation between the two of you about the ways in which you view time. It will help you relate to one another, which is so critical if you have hard feelings toward one another when it comes to time management.
Keep in mind that just because your wife finds out she’s hard wired a certain way in her approach to time, there’s still no excuse for having no accountability for it. We need structure to feel confident and respected. Gently encourage her to find a system that helps her get her time under control, and helps her to hold herself accountable.
Does your spouse have difficulty managing time (or do you)? Have have you tackle the issue together? Have you overcome it? Let us know in the comments section.