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May 20
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Help! My Spouse Pays More Attention to My In-Laws Than to Me

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Are you competing with your in-laws for your spouse’s attention? Many married couples experience this friction, especially when it comes to your relationship with your in-laws. How much time spent with parents is too much? And on the flip side, how much time and attention can you rightfully demand from your spouse? Relationships are important, especially because family creates part of the essential support system every person needs. No one can thrive without community. Still, if you and your spouse are at odds over how much attention the in-laws get, it’s worth digging deeper. If your spouse feels compelled to…

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Dec 17
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My Spouse Swears When We Fight. How Can I Make It Stop?

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Does your spouse use profanity when you fight? Is there a way to stop it? Unfortunately, when emotions are running high, some individuals use offensive language. Maybe it’s just habit, or maybe they’re venting their frustrations. If you’re uncomfortable with swearing, though, it’s hurtful to hear those words. Offensive language is degrading to hear. If swearing has never been part of your life, it’s jarring to hear profanity from the person you love most–especially in the heat of conflict. It’s hard enough to argue with your spouse, especially if you’re newlyweds. But adding offensive language to the mix takes it…

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Nov 12
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When Is The “Right Time” For Hard Conversations In Marriage?

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Is there ever a “right time” to have a hard conversation with your spouse? Deciding when to have a difficult discussion can be a challenge. Tough topics can rock the boat, disturbing the sense of peace between you. Even though you want to bring up a particular issue with your spouse, you might put it off to avoid discomfort. The thing is, putting hard conversations on hold will compound the problem over time. It’s important to commit to having the conversation sooner rather than later, if possible. Then, it’s time to decide on a time to talk to your spouse….

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Oct 22
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Should I Agree to Disagree With My Spouse?

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As a married couple, you’ll inevitably run into situations where you just can’t see eye to eye on a topic. You’re going to think, Man, you just don’t get it. Maybe you’ll exhaust yourself trying to convince them of your perspective. So what do you do in these situations? Should you fight with your spouse when you can’t find common ground? Or should you just agree to disagree and move on? If you and your spouse are struggling with frequent arguments and disagreements, it’s possible to calm the chaos. You Can’t Avoid All Conflict No matter how well you and…

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May 07
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My Spouse Guilts Me In Front of Friends and Family. Is That Fair?

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Does your spouse guilt you in front of friends and family? It’s great to have a shared friend group, or to be close with family. There’s comfort and intimacy in close relationships. But sometimes, spouses bring up grievances against each other in these settings. Your spouse might do this in a way that seems lighthearted or well-intentioned to others. To you, though, it feels like an embarrassing guilt trip. Guilt trips can be masked as concern, jokes, or prayer requests. Sometimes they’re an indirect way to air out hard feelings, and are often intended to inspire some kind of change…

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Feb 19
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I Want My Spouse To Earn More Money. Am I Being Unreasonable?

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You want your spouse to earn more money. Is that unreasonable? Financial conflict is one of the most common sources of marital tension. Money can be a volatile topic. This is especially true for spouses who come from different economic backgrounds or have differing values around spending, saving, and earning. There are many reasons why you might want or need your spouse to earn more money. These can include: Building an emergency fund Cost-of-living expenses Desire to buy a house Having children Health concerns and associated costs Job loss or reduction in pay Maintaining a particular lifestyle Rent or property…

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Nov 13
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I Want My Spouse To Agree With Me. Is That So Wrong?

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Should spouses agree on everything? When you love someone, you naturally want them to agree with you in all areas. Unfortunately, that’s not realistic. No matter how compatible two people are, they will never align on every issue. It’s normal to crave full agreement from your spouse, especially when it comes to the issues that matter most to you. But when you cross the line from simply desiring agreement to trying to force it, problems can arise in your marriage. If disagreements with your spouse make you feel anxious, keep reading–let’s talk about it. Love Allows for Individuality First, when…

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Aug 28
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My Spouse Lied About Debt Before We Got Married. What Now?

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Did your spouse lie about the debt they were bringing into your marriage? Secret debt is a common, unfortunate scenario for couples. And it’s understandable why you might be angry. After all, your spouse withheld information that impacts you financially. There’s still hope if you’re facing the difficult situation of uncovering a debt deception. You certainly have a challenge to overcome. The good news is that it’s possible to solve the problem while rebuilding trust. Why Did Your Spouse Hide Their Debt? People hide their debt for many different reasons. One of the most straightforward answers is that people tend…

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Jun 05
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Help! I’m Afraid of Fighting With My Spouse

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Are you afraid of fighting with your spouse? Maybe you’re one of those people who’s hardwired to value harmony. You recoil at the thought of conflict, and avoid getting into an argument with anyone–especially the person you love most. The idea of fighting makes you feel insecure and fearful. It can be scary to put your feelings out there when you’re upset. What if it changes your relationship in some fundamental way? What if your spouse becomes angry with you? What if the conflict escalates? The thing is, there’s greater risk in holding your feelings inside and leaving issues unresolved….

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Mar 27
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Better Communication, Better Love: Forgiveness and Conflict Resolution

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Forgiveness and conflict resolution are crucial components of good communication. That’s true not only in marriage, but across all your relationships. To build a happy marriage with true, lifelong love, you’ll need to be able to not only solve conflicts that arise; you’ll also need to be willing to forgive one another. In this final part of our four-part series on better communication, we’re focusing on how to lovingly resolve conflict and forgive often. Ready to learn more? Let’s jump into it. Listen With Empathy When working through a conflict, it’s important to listen to one another with empathy. Understanding…

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