My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.

John 15:12

How To Carve Out Your Careers Together

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When we get married I plan to work part-time to help with the bills, but really want to be a traditional stay-at-home wife. However, my husband, who is just beginning his career, seems to think his work shouldn’t concern me and as a result I feel left out. I’m not a control freak, but I’d like to be included in his career plans. Do you think that’s wrong? “What do you want to be when you grow up?” is a challenging question to answer when you are three years old. At age eighteen, or sometimes earlier, there comes another one:…

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Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.

1 Thessalonians 5:11

The Secret to a Healthy Marriage

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There is a saying in India, “When a pickpocket meets a saint, all he sees are the pockets.” Our motives shape what we see – and don’t see – around us. Consider the fabled story of the man from Colorado who moved to Texas and built a house with a large picture window from which he could view hundreds of miles of rangeland. “The only problem is,” he said, “there’s nothing to see.” About the same time, a Texan moved to Colorado and built a house with a large picture window overlooking the Rockies. “The only problem is I can’t…

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And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.

Ephesians 4:32

Should You Keep Secrets From Eachother?

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My partner accuses me of keeping him in the dark, of not telling him everything. I, on the other hand, believe we should respect one another’s privacy on some matters. What do you think? Should we never keep a secret from each other? Most of us were raised to believe that in good marriages, there are no secrets — that couples should tell each other everything. We believe that in a good marriage spouses are totally transparent with each other, revealing all of what they think, feel and do so that absolutely nothing is hidden. But while this ideal may…

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Stay on good terms with each other, held together by love.

Hebrews 13:1

Winning At Work (as a Woman) Without Losing At Love

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I’m a working woman. I went to college to be a graphic designer and landed a great job shortly after graduation. In fact, I earn more than my fiancé. However, my parents are convinced that since I work outside the home, our marriage is going to fall apart. Is there any evidence to show that a wife that works leads to marriage problems? The relationship of work and family in the United States has undergone a profound change in the last few decades. More and more women have entered the labor force. In the past, most women in the workplace…

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Be good husbands to your wives. Honor them, delight in them.

I Peter 3:7

Do Men And Women Speak Different Languages?

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Sometimes it feels like we are speaking different languages. What I think I said isn’t what he heard and vice-versa. Maybe if I knew just how men and woman communicate differently, I could do something about it. What are the differences in communication between men and women? Only recently have researchers begun to understand how drastically different men and women communicate. Deborah Tannen and other sociolinguists have come to believe that the genders speak so differently, in fact, that they can be considered different languages — or at least different “genderlects.” In her ground-breaking book, You Just Don’t Understand, Tannen…

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