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Help! I Need My Spouse To Pay Attention When I Speak

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There’s little more frustrating than struggling to keep your spouse’s attention. You want them to listen. You need them to hear what you have to say. After all, you offer them that courtesy. Yet it seems that every time you try to tell them something important, their attention drifts. Maybe they’re chronically busy at work, or they have a lot on their mind. They could simply have a distractible personality. Either way, you find yourself increasingly annoyed — and you need something to change fast. There’s an important thing to remember: Whether your husband or wife struggles to pay attention,…

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What Happened To The Person I Married?

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What happened to the person you fell in love with? Back when you were dating and newly married, you thought you knew your spouse. Now, they’ve changed, and you’re not sure you recognize them anymore. What should you do? One of the biggest marriage myths is, “The person I fell in love with will always stay the same.” When your spouse changes, it can be startling. That’s particularly true if the change is significant. We romanticize the idea of what our spouse will be like as a husband or wife. That’s completely normal. But we’re not prepared when some of…

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Communication Techniques Feel Awkward. What Do I Do Now?

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Do communication techniques feel awkward to you? You genuinely want more meaningful communication with your spouse. The problem is, whenever you try to apply a method you’ve learned, it feels awkward and unnatural. If you can’t use those techniques, what else are you supposed to do? Using communication tactics such as reflecting your spouse’s feelings might feel robotic and unnatural. You might feel like you’re going through the motions of an exercise. But getting agitated by a technique can actually distract you from your goal: better, healthier communication. If you struggle with using communication tools, what should you do? Is…

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My Spouse Says I Always Keep Score. Who’s Right?

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What’s “fair” in marriage? Do you and your spouse keep score? We like to say that scorekeeping is for sports, not for marriage. There’s no scoreboard in your living room, and no referees calling each play. It’s just you and your spouse–and if you’re not playing on the same team, you’re headed for conflict. Do you feel like you’re carrying more than your share of the load in your marriage? If so, how can you find a better balance? Let’s talk about it. Scorekeeping Holds You Both Back Scorekeeping in marriage holds both you and your spouse back. It keeps…

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Should We Stay Together for the Kids?

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If you’re unhappy in your marriage, should you stay together for the kids? Marital satisfaction ebbs and flows over the course of a lifetime. It’s common for spouses to go through seasons where they don’t feel as close to one another–or might even feel like roommates. Many couples with children who experience these dry seasons find themselves wondering whether they should stay together for the kids’ sake. Are you experiencing a season of distance from one another? Do your kids feel like the only thing you have in common right now? If that sounds familiar, there’s hope. Refocus on Your…

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How Can I Be A Better Spouse?

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Do you want to be a better spouse? Setting out to improve your marriage requires self-awareness and a willingness to correct unhealthy patterns. It requires humility and dedication. Whatever state of health your marriage is in, you can always find ways to be a better husband or wife. Wondering what you can do to improve your marriage? We’ve gathered some practical answers to help you start on the right path. Let’s jump in. Ask Your Spouse One of the most enlightening things you can do to be a better spouse is simply asking how! Try asking your husband or wife,…

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My Spouse’s Friends Make Me Feel Bad About Myself. How Do I Handle It?

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Do your spouse’s friends make you feel bad about yourself? It’s incredibly painful when your spouse’s friends belittle, make fun of you, or otherwise treat you in a way that makes you feel inferior. Not only is it wrong of them; it hurts when your spouse doesn’t seem to notice how you’re feeling. So how are you supposed to handle this situation? Friendship dynamics that make you feel badly about yourself must be addressed between you and your spouse. If this situation is left to fester unresolved, it will continue to erode your self-worth. Ultimately, it will negatively impact your…

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Emotional Needs in Marriage: What’s Most Important?

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Everyone has emotional needs. For each of us, those come down to a few top needs that are most important to us. With those emotional needs unmet, it’s difficult for us to walk in our spouse’s shoes. Because emotional needs are highly important, which ones should you prioritize first? Which emotional needs are the most important–yours or your spouse’s? That answer isn’t one-size-fits-all. You can do a few things to determine which needs to meet first in any given situation. Want to know more? Let’s jump right into it. Know Your Own Top Emotional Needs It isn’t easy to articulate…

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Career Roundup: Practical Advice for Married Professionals

Career Roundup: Practical Advice for Married Professionals

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Career growth and development is important for many married couples today. It’s likely that you and your spouse are both interested in growing both personally and professionally. Luckily, being married means you can be each other’s cheerleader and biggest fan along the way. Today, we’ve gathered some of our best career resources from the blog. Whether you’re setting priorities for the near future or navigating a career crisis, there are helpful tips for you here. We’re covering a variety of situations and solutions, so read on. Encourage Each Other’s Professional Growth First and foremost, it’s crucial to support one another’s…

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Listening 101: Tips to Help You Better Hear Your Spouse

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A common theme in marital conflict is the idea that one or both spouses don’t feel heard. Has your spouse ever told you that you’re not hearing them? If so, there are some things you can do to help them know that you’re listening–or that you’re working to understand where they’re coming from. It’s frustrating to hear that your spouse feels unheard or misunderstood, especially if you’re doing your best from one day to the next. However, it’s possible for effective communication to break down before either of you realize what has happened. The good news is, it’s possible to…

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