Do you want to build more intimacy in your marriage this Christmas?
The holidays can be hectic and stressful. But if you act intentionally, this time of year is actually a wonderful time to build intimacy in your marriage. Not only are you taking more time for one another; you’re building lasting memories together that you’ll carry into the New Year.
Looking for ideas to make the holidays merrier together? Here are 8 ways you and your spouse can create more intimacy this Christmas:
1. Have a cozy check-in.
Tone down the holiday chaos with warm drinks like cocoa or coffee, and check in with one another this Christmas. Ask how your spouse is feeling, really. Find out how you can lighten their load during the season (and beyond). How can you better tune in to one another and make this Christmas extra special?
2. Give your spouse the gift of presence.
Show your spouse you’re here for them, and that you value their presence in your life. Give them a handwritten note expressing your gratitude. List what you love about them. Pair it with a playlist that reminds you of special moments you’ve shared together.
3. Try a new holiday recipe together.
If you enjoy cooking and baking together, why not spend some time trying a new recipe? This quality time in the kitchen could give you some much-needed time away from technology and everyday demands. Who knows, you might start a new tradition!
4. Go tech-free for a day.
How would it feel to focus on the holiday without tech distractions? Would the two of you be more present? Consider shutting off your phones and immersing yourselves in celebration and tradition instead.
5. Share your most impactful holiday memories.
How did the Christmas season most impact you growing up? What are your most impactful memories from the holidays? These could be happy memories, or they could be more emotional. Spend some time sitting close to one another, giving your full attention to your spouse as they share.
6. Exchange your holiday expectations.
Have you ever truly sat down together and talked about each of your expectations for the holidays? Every person has their own idea of how the holidays should be. This is a great way to get to know one another better and build more emotional intimacy. Plus, you can identify ways to meet one another’s expectations where possible.
7. Share non-sexual physical touch.
The holidays can be stressful and tiring. This is a wonderful opportunity to practice non-sexual physical touch. Show affection through long hugs, holding hands, or snuggling by the fire.
8.Reflect on the past year.
Before the New Year arrives, consider taking some time out to reflect this Christmas. Celebrate your wins from the past year, and discuss lessons you’ve learned. Getting clear on this year will help you focus and prepare for the next as a team.
Strengthen Your Marriage This Holiday Season
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How will you and your spouse be more intentional about building intimacy this Christmas? We’d love for you to share in the comments. Happy holidays!
