We’ve met many couples who have built successful marriages and relationships despite having different faiths, religions, and beliefs. Without exception, every single one of them sees their difference of beliefs as a challenge.
When things of the spirit aren’t shared, that presents a lot of challenges to your marriage, as well as your children and your extended family. Navigating these challenges requires a great deal of grace and wisdom.
In today’s post, we’re sharing three ways to connect spiritually with your spouse–even though your beliefs clash.
Find your common ground.
Intimacy is based on sharing. When you and your spouse don’t share fundamental spiritual or religious beliefs–beliefs that, essentially, make up who you are at your very core–this can significantly threaten intimacy.
Are you a Christian married to a Jewish person? You both worship Yahweh. Are you Protestant, while your spouse is Catholic? You believe in the same God, and that Jesus is the Messiah. Does each of you align with a different denomination? Instead of focusing on the things you disagree on, find your common ground and put your emphasis there instead.
What if your spouse is part of a completely different religion altogether? You can still find common things to appreciate. If you share the belief that you aren’t in control and a power greater than you created the universe, that’s a good place to start. It’s not ideal to experience such a deep divide with your spouse, but trying to force your beliefs onto him or her may do more harm than good.
Reach out to others–together.
Doing charitable or benevolent work is deeply spiritual, and deeply rewarding. Engaging together in work for the greater good will not only bring the two of you closer together; it will aid in your spiritual growth, both as a couple and as individuals.
To avoid any potential conflict, it may be easier for you to choose to support or align with charities or causes that aren’t closely tied to religious organizations–depending on the difference of beliefs between the two of you.
Reaching outside of yourself to help others in need will bring you closer to God, and closer to your spouse. It will also help the two of you to focus on the good you can do in the world if you work together.
Focus on hope, love, and goodness.
Hope, love, and goodness are universally spiritual things, valued in most major religions. Focusing on them together could help foster the sense of spiritual closeness that you may be lacking.
No matter how deep your differences of belief are, you can always circle back to these tenets. If the two of you are committed to one another and to having a successful, peaceful, and fruitful marriage, you’ll find comfort in grounding yourselves here.
Do you and your spouse have different beliefs–or completely different religions? How do you navigate that together? We’d love to hear from you in the comments section.