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Conflict

Jan 19
Love28

3 Ways to Reconcile After a Conflict

By Communication, Conflict, Self Reflection, Time 5 Comments

Overcoming conflict in marriage is hard. Sometimes we don’t know what to do to a make amends when we’re wrong; other times, we struggle to forgive our spouse when we’ve been hurt. Conflict is complicated and complex, and it can be very painful. Today we’re sharing three ways you can reconcile after a disagreement with your spouse. Admit when you’re wrong–with NO excuses. It’s not easy to muster up the courage to say, “I was wrong.” But if you know you’re in the wrong, it’s essential to admit it so that you and your spouse can move forward. Refusing to…

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Jan 14
Love16

Too Busy to Clean and Cook – But My Spouse Says No Outside Help

By Communication, Conflict, Time, Uncategorized One Comment

Is it alright that I don’t do our own housework? My husband doesn’t like it. Today’s busy culture has changed a lot about what life and work looks like. Full-time jobs now look very different than they used to, and both men and women are often stretched to their limit. So what do you do if you want to hire a little extra help around the house–and your husband or wife is totally against the idea? It’s difficult to approach your spouse and acknowledge a personal limitation. And it’s even tougher when your spouse thinks that your limitation is a…

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Jan 12
Love17

The Tightrope: Balancing Career and Marriage

By Communication, Conflict, In-laws & Family, Time One Comment

Some of the biggest hot-button issues in marriages today involve each spouse’s career. Work is a major part of each individual’s life, and it can be challenging to balance work and career needs while maintaining a healthy, happy marriage. Couples often find themselves in the midst of conflict over the jobs of one or both spouses. Even though it can take a lot of work, it is possible to balance your careers and your marriage. In this article, we share four suggestions to help you and your spouse create a healthier relationship that exists in harmony with your careers, rather…

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Jan 07
Love19

The Work/Family Conflict: When Priorities Clash

By Careers, Communication, Conflict, In-laws & Family, Time No Comments

My wife wants me to work overtime over being with the kids. Which one is unreasonable? Getting married and creating a family of your own is a wonderful thing–but married couples are often blindsided by some of the challenges that come along with it. Finding the right balance for your family is an important pursuit, but it takes the two of you working together to make that balance a reality. So what do you do when you disagree on each of your roles in the family? Maybe your spouse wants to be at home with the kids, but you’d prefer…

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Jan 05
Love18

The Importance of Spiritual Intimacy: Choosing to BELIEVE TOGETHER in 2016

By Communication, Conflict, Self Reflection, Time No Comments

Of the various “types” of intimacy in a marriage, the pursuit of spirituality together is one that’s often forgotten. When schedules get busy and life is chaotic with jobs and chores and kids, seeking God with your spouse too often becomes last priority. But spiritual intimacy is immeasurably powerful, and its fruit flows into and invigorates all other facets of a marriage. Even the most happily married couples eventually discover an innate longing to bond with their lover in a deeper way, not just for comfort, not just for passion—but also for meaning. Our lives go on day after day….

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Dec 29
Love20

6 Dangerous Statements To Say In Your Marriage

By Communication, Conflict, Self Reflection, Time 2 Comments

Your words matter. They carry power, and they can be forgiven–but hardly forgotten. They can fuel or kill momentum, build up or tear down. They are givers and takers of life. And it’s so very important to remember that they can never be taken back. We have all said things that we regret. We have hurt, torn down, or criticized in moments of frustration. And it’s likely that you have done this to your spouse–perhaps multiple times. You know the drill: harsh words, immediate regret. Most of us know better. To cut down our spouse with our words is never…

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Dec 22
Love23

7 Ways to Dial Back Holiday Stress

By Communication, Conflict, In-laws & Family, Scripture, Self Reflection, Time No Comments

“Suddenly a great company of the heavenly host appeared with the angel, praising God and saying, ‘Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace to men on whom his favor rests.’” – Luke 2:13 (NIV) Jesus came to earth to bring peace and save humanity. Christmas was established to celebrate his birth, and to give us time to focus on the greatest gift ever given. But somewhere along the way, the holiday season shifted from a time of thankfulness and peaceful reflection to a time of overwhelm, stress, and discord. Unfortunately, the holidays have become a season that…

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Dec 17
Love18

Too Scared to Speak Up: How Do I Open Up to My Husband?

By Communication, Conflict, Self Reflection No Comments

I’m so scared of speaking up. How do I open my feelings up to my husband? Many times, we find ourselves hesitant to speak up about our feelings to our spouses. Because we value harmony in our marriages, we find it easy to withdraw inside ourselves to avoid even the thought of creating conflict. In the spirit of making peace, we often misstep. When your spouse asks, “What’s wrong,” and you respond with, “Nothing,” you’re actually hurting your relationship. Sound familiar? It’s better to be up-front and honest with your spouse, even if it’s a little scary–and even if it…

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Dec 10
Love12

Crisis Control: When To Call in the Experts

By Communication, Conflict No Comments

I’m not sure how we compare to other couples. How do we know if we ever need professional help? Have you ever wondered whether you and your spouse should seek professional marriage counseling? Do you suspect that the two of you could really use the help of an objective third party? If the two of you continually seem to butt heads over the same issues, over and over again, that’s a pretty clear indicator that it’s time to seek help. If you’re feeling stuck, frustrated, lonely, perpetually angry, or are ready to give up, those are major warning signs as…

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Dec 08
Love24

5 Reasons Why Your Spouse Isn’t the Source of Your Happiness

By Communication, Conflict, In-laws & Family, Self Reflection 8 Comments

When we get married, we expect that everything good in our lives will get better, and that being married will make the bad things disappear. Since our behaviors in marriage are fueled by our (often false!) beliefs about marriage, it’s important to shed light on unrealistic expectations and myths surrounding it. One of the greatest and most common myths we tend to believe (but don’t often express) when entering marriage is that we’ll somehow be completed or made whole by our husband or wife. As romantic as that concept sounds, it’s simply not true–and resting all your hope for happiness…

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