How to Prioritize Christlike Love During Difficult Times

Loving like Jesus is important at all times, but when you’re experiencing a challenging season, Christlike love becomes absolutely critical. In order to keep Christlike love a top priority, you must practice it intentionally on a daily basis.

Christlike love transcends all–hard times, interpersonal conflict, joy, and loss. Whatever you and your spouse are facing right now, you can make it to the other side through Jesus’s love. Let’s look at a few ways we can all prioritize Christlike love during hard times.

1. Pay careful attention to your spouse’s needs.

When times are tough, you and your spouse may have different needs and priorities that may feel unusual or clash with “normal” life. Or, your usual needs may be amplified (for example, a spouse who craves physical touch may want more cuddling when they’re stressed or taxed out). No one knows your spouse’s needs better than you do, so stay tuned in and mindful of what they need.

2. Stay open and easy to approach.

Some of us wall off or shut down when we’re under stress. Try to keep tabs on your emotional health so you can remain approachable to your spouse. Take care of yourself emotionally, spiritually, and physically during this time so that you can be available to listen and to talk when needed.

3. Give plenty of grace to your spouse (and yourself).

Hard times can make it easy to act out of character, and to be short and impatient with one another. Give your spouse plenty of grace during this time, but don’t forget to do the same for yourself. In life, we’re going to make missteps and disappoint one another from time to time–it’s just inevitable. And when life gets hard, we’re more likely to make mistakes. When that happens, forgive one another and yourselves, then move toward the next right step.

4. Go above and beyond to demonstrate love.

Going the extra mile to show love to one another becomes exponentially more important when you’re going through a difficult time. Rather than using your energy to focus on negativity and the difficulties you’re dealing with, focus instead on how you can show more love to your husband or wife. Don’t just anticipate, though–ask. What do they need? What would they like? Is there something you can do to help lighten their load or just make them feel more nurtured?

5. Be relentlessly selfless.

Stress makes many of us turn inward and focus on our own pain. We tend to fixate on what can help us feel better, to the detriment of the people around us. Once in a while, check in with yourself. Are you taking care of you, or are you looking out more for what your spouse needs? Fill each other’s cup. Shoulder each other’s burdens. Through selflessness and radical love, you’ll get through this together.

Want to learn more about how Jesus loved?

Love Like That is a book of relationship secrets from Jesus that will transform the way you love others, including your spouse. Its lessons apply to relationships from acquaintances to marriages. If you’re ready to transform the way you love to be more like Christ, Love Like That can help you get started. Get your copy here.

How do you demonstrate Christlike love during difficult times? How does your spouse? Let us know in the comments.

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  • During tough times is where I become more deliberate with my spouse. My wife is the Senior Pastor of our church and our building is still closed to our congregation. In addition to the needs of our congregation during these last 9 months and my wife losing her father and brother to this horrible Covid-19, she also had the virus. So I choose to be “relentlessly deliberate on caring for my spouse.” I develop deliberate “amnesia” during these tough times. Don’t hold grudges. The clergy is dealing with so much depression and fatigue from the congregants, that it is imperative to create a loving caring environment at home. It is time for me as her husband to stand up and demonstrate the love of Christ.

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