Our emotional, psychological, and spiritual health influences every person we come into contact with–especially our spouse. Strong relationships are dependent upon our ability to feel truly significant, complete, and selfless as individuals.
We all have the power to take control of our emotional health–and, in turn, our relationships. There are many things you can do to nurture your health in these areas, and investing that time and effort in yourself will pay dividends not only now, but in the future as well.
Here are three reasons why it’s time to take control of your emotional, psychological, and spiritual health.
1. You’ll be happier.
If you want to be happy, caring for your mind, your emotions, and your spirit will go a long way toward helping you reach that goal. True happiness comes from within–not from another person or set of circumstances. Knowing we can shape our own happiness is incredibly empowering.
Here are a few steps you can take toward improving your emotional and psychological health:
- Pay close attention to your self-talk. If you were to bug yourself, what would you hear? What would you think of the things you say to yourself every day? Monitoring and adjusting negative self-talk is one step you can take to take care of your emotional and psychological health.
- Overcome the past. Dwelling on past events–especially negative ones–is harmful to our emotional health. It keeps us stuck and unable to move forward. Are you dwelling on your past? How might it be hurting you?
- Cultivate self-awareness. Uncovering our own blind spots and opening our eyes to our own strengths and weaknesses will take us a long way toward psychological health. You may need to seek professional counseling to help you uncover areas where you might be feeling stuck in your own life.
- Build empathy. Learning to see the world through another’s eyes will help you to strengthen your relationships across the board. You’ll be more compassionate, selfless, and a better listener, too.
If your spiritual health needs nourishing, spend time in prayer, scripture, and worship. There are many wonderful books that can help support your spiritual journey as well. Meeting with fellow Christians can help nurture your spiritual life, as well as engaging in worship when you’re able.
2. You’ll feel more complete.
When your mind and soul are healthy, you’re more likely to feel like the most complete, authentic version of yourself. You’re intimately connected with who you truly are at your core, and you’re doing the things you need to do to care for yourself well.
So many problems we face in our lives originate from an innate feeling of being incomplete or not enough. This leads us to feel insignificant, stunts our ability to be authentic, and inhibits our capacity for selfless love.
No person was made to complete another. You are not capable of completing another person, and no person is capable of completing you. Instead, you have to do that work yourself. The reward of seeing to your own health and completeness is that you’ll experience healthier relationships.
3. You’ll have better relationships.
When you are an emotionally healthy and complete person, you’re more likely to have better relationships across the board. This includes your marriage.
When you’re secure in yourself, you spend more time filling your own cup rather than trying to get someone else to fill it. We like to say it this way: if you try to build intimacy with another before you have gotten whole on your own, all your relationships become an attempt to complete yourself.
Time and again, we’re asked the same question: what’s the single most important secret to happy relationships? The answer: your relationships can only be as healthy as you are. That’s truly the secret to building happy friendships, family bonds, and marriages that last a lifetime.
It’s time to take control of your health so your relationships can thrive. Our new book Healthy Me, Healthy Us explores getting healthy yourself so your marriage can be its best, too. The book releases on May 5th–in the meantime, you can pre-order it here.
Do you and your spouse focus on nurturing your own health? What are some of your favorite self-care routines? Let us know in the comments section!