I feel like since we got married I don’t know what’s going on in my wife’s head. What happened? When you were dating your spouse, you talked about everything–it felt like you were on the same wavelength. But now that you’re married, you realize you have no idea what your spouse is thinking. Everything between you two was open before, but now there are times when you feel totally lost. So what gives? In this video, we share some ideas for practicing healthy “mind-reading” in marriage that will help you overcome the communication barriers you may be experiencing. Did you…
Fervent prayer is tremendously powerful. Praying for your husband is one of the most important things you can do for the health of your marriage. Calling on God to bless your husband will not only benefit him; it will transform your entire family for the better. There are numerous ways to cover your husband in prayer. Here are 10 important prayers to lift your husband up as you walk through life together. Pray for his ability to lead spiritually. Your husband is meant to be the spiritual leader of your family. The book of Ephesians says, “The husband provides leadership…
How do my spouse and I improve our level of enjoyment when we are together? Over the years, married couples tend to stop focusing so much on the things they absolutely love about each other. They begin taking the things that first attracted them to each other for granted–and this is true for most married couples. So how do we regain our focus on one another and improve our level of enjoyment when we’re together? In this video, we discuss the importance of writing down the best qualities about your spouse that will bring your focus back to what drew…
The contrasts between men and women are sometimes so striking that we often hear couples say they’re amazed that the attraction between them can be so strong. Distinctions in gender are undeniable, and in recent years researchers have discovered that men and women have different biological, psychological, and professional realities. There is an inherent completeness when a man and woman marry. Our partner makes up for what we lack. Too often in marriage, though, the fundamental differences between men and women are overlooked and become sources of great frustration and tension. To ignore the gender gap is to risk putting…
What Is the Best Way to Support My Spouse After a Traumatic Event? After a traumatic event, you might feel like you’ve lost your spouse–even though he or she is physically with you. As your spouse navigates the waters of post-traumatic stress or depression, you may feel lonely or helpless. How do you help your husband or wife through a difficult time like this? In today’s video, we offer advice for supporting your spouse through the emotional fallout that often occurs in the aftermath of a traumatic event. Have you or your spouse needed support after experiencing a tragedy or…
Somewhere along the way, a little lie snuck its way into Christian culture, whispering that couples who are truly following God simply won’t fight. That a Christ-centered marriage means an always peaceful marriage. That good, church-going husbands and wives should not encounter discord. The truth? It is absolutely OK to argue within a Christian marriage. And in fact, not only is it OK, but it’s actually good–when fair, mature, and under the right circumstances. Here are three reasons why fighting is not only OK, but also fruitful. It’s OK because fighting well allows us to live under realistic expectations. We’re…
How to Fall Back In Love With Your Spouse Over time, it can be easy to stop getting to know your spouse over and over again. You might think your husband or wife hasn’t changed, even after years of marriage–and maybe you’ve become bored. Chances are, you’ve lost sight of one another’s passions and interest, and you have probably missed some changes in one another along the way. In this video, we address the issue of boredom in marriage, and offer simple (but powerful) solutions that will help you reignite your spark and fall in love all over again. Have…
A strong marriage may seem simple and easy from the outside looking in, but in reality, there are many factors that must work together in harmony to create a stable, lasting marriage. It’s complex, yet so simple–but each element is essential for your relationship to thrive. In this post, we’ll explore 5 important layers of a good marriage: characteristics that will carry you and your spouse through many happy, fulfilled decades together. 1. Friendship A critical element of any successful marriage is the foundation of a solid friendship between you and your husband or wife. Becoming friends with your spouse…
How Much Truth is Too Much? Being open and honest with your spouse is one of the most important components of a successful marriage, but it’s possible to present the truth in such a way that it is hurtful. Wounding your husband or wife with “truth” will damage your relationship, creating distance between the two of you in the process. In this video, we share our thoughts about speaking the truth in love, and maintaining a godly attitude in the process. Are you and your spouse comfortable being completely truthful with one another in love? Have you experienced “too much…
There is an inevitable “honeymoon” stage in every marriage: the time when you can’t imagine getting irritated by your spouse not replacing the toilet paper roll, where you overlook the crazy in-laws, and where marriage is smooth sailing. It may vary from couple to couple, but eventually we settle into the routines and demands of life. It can be hard to recognize at first, but every marriage will eventually come face-to-face with being in a rut. The problem with getting into a rut in your marriage, like any other time in life, is that it often happens gradually and can…