Why do I sometimes feel lonely in my marriage?
So you’re a newlywed, married to your soul mate. Life is looking perfect–and then you feel something you weren’t expecting to feel again. Ever.
You feel lonely.
How did this happen? While you and your spouse were engaged, you dreamed of all the ways you would fulfill each other’s every need. You promised each other (and yourselves) that you’d never feel lonely again. This loneliness has you in a panic; how could this happen?
We often see couples, especially newlyweds, who are struggling with feeling lonely in their marriages. This may sound surprising, but loneliness is a normal emotion that married and single people alike experience.
In today’s video, we’ll talk about loneliness in marriage and how to overcome it.
First, don’t panic. There is nothing wrong with your marriage or your spouse. Don’t allow yourself to feel anxious, afraid, or guilty; loneliness is part of life. Even though you love one another deeply, you will still go through seasons when you feel very much alone.
In order to process your own emotions, spend a little time journaling. It’s also always beneficial to pray and stay in the Word.
The two of you can reestablish some activities you enjoy doing together, or find a hobby or pastime you both enjoy. Taking a little extra time to be together will go a long way toward alleviating those lonely feelings.
It could also help you to connect with one or two of your close same-sex friends. Taking time to be with the people you love is a great antidote for loneliness.
Have you experienced loneliness in your own marriage? What are some healthy ways you and your spouse moved through that season? We’d love to hear from you in the comments section.