Dealing With Changing Feelings in Marriage

Is it normal to wake up thanking God for your husband one day, and the next day you can’t stand him?

Welcome to true love. It may sound funny, but this is how it is!

We’ve never met anyone who wakes up every single morning, looks at their spouse, and thinks they’re the luckiest person in the world. No–definitely not every morning (not even us!).

You married a real person. Your spouse has great strengths, abilities, and character…but on the flipside, your spouse also has annoying habits and flaws, and I’ll bet he or she also makes plenty of mistakes.

In the dance of marriage, we’re going to get our toes stepped on sometimes (and we’ll step on our spouse’s toes as well…oops!). But if we commit to stay in the dance, we’ll move together gracefully again.

In today’s video, we’re talking about the fluidity of feelings and the glue that holds spouses together: commitment.

Love and romance are very fluid. That warm, fuzzy, romantic feeling that your spouse is an amazing gift, and you can’t believe you get to spend your life with this person, is going to wash over you in surges sometimes. And then on some days, the tide will recede, and you’ll wonder where those feelings went.

The fluidity of emotion is one of the many reasons why we make a commitment to one another by entering the marriage covenant. Everybody knows that feelings ebb and flow. If we based relationships on feelings, they wouldn’t last.

Commitment is the willful part of love. It’s a choice we make every day–even on the tough days–to stay in the dance.

How have you and your spouse overcome changing feelings in your marriage? We’d love to hear from you in the comments section.


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