5 Valentine’s Day Must Do’s for Your Spouse

Valentine’s Day is almost here! No other day of the year focuses so closely on love, so this is your perfect chance to show your spouse how much they mean to you. If your marriage is strong, these ideas will strengthen your bond. If you’re struggling, they’re great ideas to spark the positive changes you’re craving in your relationship.

Today we’re sharing 5 things you must do for your spouse on Valentine’s Day this year. They’re designed with flexibility and creativity in mind, so take them and make them your own! The possibilities are endless.

  1. Write a love letter.

Hand-writing a thoughtful love letter to your spouse is a wonderful, personal way to express your adoration for them. Write down your favorite memories, tell them why you love them, craft a poem, or share your dreams for the future. And there are no rules–get creative and have fun!

Pull out a trusty pen and sheet of notebook paper if you wish, or choose some stationery you really like. Or get playful and colorful with markers or colored pencils. Do whatever will delight your spouse!

Let your authenticity shine as your words flow, and create a sweet love note that they will cherish.

  1. Lighten your spouse’s load.

These days, we’re all overwhelmed and overscheduled, and that makes it tough to get everyday tasks accomplished. This Valentine’s Day, make a point to do something for your spouse that needs to be done.

You can wash the car, help with the laundry, pack the kids’ lunches, offer to shop for groceries, wash dishes, mow the lawn–the list goes on. Depending on the way you distribute daily tasks in your home, choose at least one thing that you think would help lighten the load for your spouse, then get to it!

  1. Give a meaningful gift.

This year, make sure your gifts really come from the heart. Don’t just grab a random gift or card from the Valentine’s Day department without putting any thought into it. Spend a little time considering what gifts might be extra meaningful to your husband or wife.

Your options are really unlimited. Maybe your spouse loves a rose and a box of chocolates, or a fluffy teddy bear. Or perhaps they prefer to receive gifts like books, music, or movies. What about a gift card to a favorite restaurant or spa?

Your spouse might prefer to receive something handmade and unique. If you’re not the crafty type, no worries–you could seek out local creatives in your community for a special gift, or even check out sites like Etsy to find unique, one-of-a-kind items.

  1. Disconnect to reconnect.

More than anything, the two of you need to spend some uninterrupted time together this Valentine’s Day (and as often as possible). We’re not necessarily saying that you have to shut off all technology (after all, you could have a romantic date night at home with a great movie!), but make an effort not to let devices divide your attention.

Technology can enhance our lives or it can complicate them, so consider its impact on your relationship and start making the necessary changes for each other. If that means silencing the phones and putting away devices after a certain time of day, so be it–but do not sacrifice your couple time for gadgets and entertainment that do not add to the quality of your marriage.

  1. Play together!

Valentine’s Day is just as much about fun as it is about love. Think about the ways that you and your spouse like to relax and play together, and work to create opportunities for fun. Maybe you like board games or goofy golf…or maybe you’d just like some special alone time together.

Let go and have a good time! The two of you deserve it. And don’t just limit your efforts to the holidays; find ways to incorporate Valentine’s Day into every day. That’s one way to create and sustain lifelong love.

What is your favorite Valentine’s Day memory with your spouse? How are you going to top it this year? We’d love to hear from you!

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8 Comments

  • John says:

    I took roses into the restraunt that I was taking her to late in the evening. Then I had the Barber Shop Quartet come in and sing to her. At first she was embarrassed but after everyone clapped for us she liked it.

  • efruitofhisdeath says:

    What can renew our floundering marriages is not the wishful thinking on the so-called Valentine’s Day but rather rethinking on the image of God, a.k.a., “life-giving breath”, associated with “the tree of life”; and updated by the “rock foundation” of Christ’s death on the cross. Amen.

  • MsBrow says:

    Wow. While salvation and acknowledging the God of our creation is life altering, it’s an interesting change of subject. God gave us our spouse and is the very inventor of marriage and He’s our biggest supporter when it comes to intimacy in that relationship. We should not down-play the needs of our spouse just because we understand the “big picture” of who God is and what He means to us. Rather, that understanding should propel us towards the Godly kind of love found in 1 Corinthians 13. We were created for relationship and our spouse should be the most important one we have here on earth. Valentine’s Day is admittedly very commercial and I know it puts a lot of pressure on men in particular, but it’s a GREAT reminder to do something special for the spouse God gave us. Happy Valentine’s Day everyone!

  • najia says:

    I’m not married yet nor do I have a boyfriend or fiance. And I guess I’m not that lucky to receive gifts on Valentine’s Day. But I’m the one who remembers such occasions and try to make it the best. While living in my homecountry, Pakistan, I used to give presents to one of my best friend without expecting what he’s giving me. And I really don’t remember if he has given something. Though he was the one to pay for my lunch or dinner quite often………….whenever we hang out.
    At present, I have a friend who I was introduced thru someone for marriage purpose. It’s been 3-4 months that I’m talking to him on the phone but I haven’t met him in-person yet. He lives in a different country. We have been talking for a while, usually texting. And I’m the one who initiate to talk via text or whats app. I don’t even know whether to stick with this person or leave him. So usually the Pakistani men are divorced and I personally believe that they act so childish though they’re experienced. I mean a single woman who was never in a relationship before he knows

    • najia says:

      ’m not married yet nor do I have a boyfriend or fiance. And I guess I’m not that lucky to receive gifts on Valentine’s Day. But I’m the one who remembers such occasions and try to make it the best. While living in my homecountry, Pakistan, I used to give presents to one of my best friend without expecting what he’s giving me. And I really don’t remember if he has given something. Though he was the one to pay for my lunch or dinner quite often………….whenever we hang out.
      At present, I have a friend who I was introduced thru someone for marriage purpose. It’s been 3-4 months that I’m talking to him on the phone but I haven’t met him in-person yet. He lives in a different country. We have been talking for a while, usually texting. And I’m the one who initiate to talk via text or whats app. I don’t even know whether to stick with this person or leave him. So usually the Pakistani men are divorced and I personally believe that they act so childish though they’re experienced. I mean a single woman who was never in a relationship have a greater understanding of men instead of men knowing anything about women,.

  • najia says:

    I’m single, never married, don’t have a boyfriend but I do celebrate valentine’s day with family and sometimes close friends. For instance, there was a guy I was deeply in love with, and I did send him chocolates with a hand-written card once. I even sent him a gift on his b’day but he didn’t even have the courtesy to thank me. He seldom talks to me but never mentioned about any of the gifts he received. Anyway! At least I don’t have any regrets. I understand the fact that he’s known as a ‘mama’s boy’ among his friends and maybe his mom is so dominated that he’s scared. He’s a doctor and passed all his exams successfully to come to USA but somehow couldn’t get the visa and as a result, ended up going to England. Maybe he was hurt. Sometimes a person is a very kindhearted, gentle man but the unexpected problems and continuous stress in life makes u bitter. He’s in Pakistan now, probably married but out of my mind. I hope I never see him again. I believe we were never meant for each other.

    I used to have a best friend in Pakistan who was a very nice person and with whom I feel comfortable with. Talking to him on the phone or hanging out with him was the best thing for me in my life. But now I’m in USA and it’s hard to stay in touch with long-distance friends. I tried to stay in touch but when the other person is unresponsive, it’s better to stay away then. Agree?

    I still celebrate Valentine’s day and love doing special things for my parents, siblings, and my adorable niece…………and sometimes some relatives in the family.

    Sometimes I feel that I’m showing extra love and care towards family, friends or someone special but never receive any. Maybe I’m unlucky. Wat do you say? Feel free to give suggestions how to find a valentine………someone who loves me.!

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