Gifting one another with regular affirmations is a wonderful way for spouses to stay close and remind each other of their affection. If you’re not regularly making an effort to affirm your spouse, then it’s time to start now–and it’s never too late.
Affirmations can be simple. The key is to be heartfelt and genuine, and to let your spouse know how much you love and admire them. How well you love your spouse, and the effort you invest in them, will make a tremendous impact on the quality of your marriage.
Today, we’ve gathered five simple affirmations to help your spouse feel loved and empowered. Let’s jump right in.
1. You are enough.
Sometimes, we just need to hear that all we do, and all we are, is enough. Life is tough, and we can get so bogged down in our thoughts and self-doubt that we lose sight of what we truly mean to our loved ones–particularly, our spouses and children. Hearing a simple phrase like, “You are enough,” from our spouse is a powerful antidote to the spiral of guilt any of us find ourselves in.
It’s easy to begin believing that we can never measure up to what we wish we were, or what we think our families expect of us. So take a step back and let one another know you’re enough once in a while. You’ll be surprised how powerful that simple statement can be.
2. You are doing a great job.
When comparison sneaks in, or when we’re so busy we can barely get everything accomplished in one day, it helps to know our spouse thinks we’re doing a great job. Praise each other, even when chores are left undone. Even when you’re both struggling to cover everything the day requires.
Have grace for one another and drop the expectation for perfection–whether from yourself or one another. Give each other that much-needed confidence boost to get through the week feeling confident and supported.
3. I am proud of you, the work you’re doing, and your accomplishments.
It’s so important for spouses to be vocally supportive of each other. We must absolutely invest in one another and spend time together in order to thrive. However, we should also praise each other’s individual accomplishments and the work we’re doing to become healthier people. If your spouse is setting goals and working hard toward them, then let them know how proud you are of their efforts.
Be there for one another, whether you’re working on the family budget or pursuing career goals. As long as you remember you’re on the same team, you can be an unstoppable force.
4. I believe in you.
When we struggle to believe in ourselves, it helps for our closest loved one to have our backs. In marriage, spouses should always express how much they believe in one another. Our efforts and our potential will be that much more powerful when we’re working together and believing in one another.
It may be a simple phrase, but “I believe in you” can pay dividends toward accomplishing goals and passing milestones in our lives. If you haven’t told your spouse you believe in them lately, it’s time.
5. You are a good person.
We humans often struggle with feeling as though we’re good or worthy of praise from one another. When appropriate, it’s important to compliment your spouse and let them know that they’re a good person.
Life can harden us, making us less likely to express our admiration for one another. Often, the closest people to us miss out on hearing these affirmations…especially our spouses. Pause and make sure your spouse knows that you admire them as a person, and why.
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Do you and your spouse regularly share affirming words? How has that improved your relationship over time? Let us know in the comments below.
Thank you for this. I love my wife of 42 years, and I know she needs continued affirmation. It’s not always my expertise to say what she wants to hear. Some things said are easier than others. These are helpful. It covers the value I want her to know and feel.
What if we’ve stopped believing those things about our spouse?
If you are struggling to believe these things based on bad behavior or treatment by your spouse, just saying them insincerely won’t fix that problem. I personally think it’s like knowing walking is good for your health and yet your foot is broken. This article is about keeping a healthy marriage healthy. If you have brokenness or toxicity in your relationship, that has to be addressed separately. Walking won’t cure your broken foot. Good counselors and friends can help you get clarity on what needs to be addressed.
Jazakallah. Absolutely, these affirmations are a beautiful way to nurture the bond between spouses. Small, heartfelt expressions of love and belief can have a profound impact on strengthening and enriching our relationships.