4 Ways to Grow Closer to Your Spouse This Fall

The seasons are changing, and we’re headed into fall. Fall is a time of profound change in the natural world as the leaves change color, then drift to the ground. It’s also a time of warmth, gratitude, and giving. There are many ways you and your spouse can use the fall season to draw closer to one another. Let’s look at a few ways you can get cozier with your husband or wife this fall.

1. Play more together.

New seasons often mean new opportunities for play. When the weather changes, or when certain sports or activities cycle in, that’s the perfect time to play together.

For people in many areas of the United States, fall is the last hurrah before cold weather creeps in. If it’s still warm enough to engage in outdoor play where you live, then get outside with your spouse. If not, there are still plenty of indoor activities you can share.

The most important thing is to find a few shared activities that allow you to play, then dive into those together. In all times–especially difficult ones–it’s essential to stay connected to a spirit of fun and play.

2. Take time out to enjoy the changing of the seasons.

As we make the transition from summer to fall, spend some time outdoors together. Admiring God’s creation can bring many things into perspective. It’s also good for the mind and spirit to slow down and appreciate nature.

Take a walk outside or go for a drive to see the fall foliage. Light up the fire pit in your backyard, have a cup of hot cider, and make s’mores. Bake a pumpkin pie or cook a big pot of chili to share. Rather than dreading the change, as many of us tend to do, welcome it. A new season means fresh opportunities and a new outlook, if you let it.

3. Engage in seasonal activities together.

There are certain activities during the fall that only happen during this time of year. Take advantage of those together. If you’re having difficulty setting aside the time to do so, let the temporary nature of these activities add a sense of urgency to your plans. At best, you only have a few weeks to enjoy them before it starts becoming cold (depending on where you live in the world).

  • Go apple picking or to the pumpkin patch
  • Carve pumpkins together
  • Decorate your home for Halloween, Thanksgiving, or simply for the fall season
  • Watch your favorite fall holiday films or TV specials
  • Attend a fall festival or outdoor concert
  • Go hiking together

4. Use the new season to reflect, be grateful, and dream.

New seasons are a good time to reflect on the past months, be grateful for your blessings, and dream of the future together. Set aside some time to connect and discuss the year behind and the months ahead.

If you want, make lists of the good things that have happened and what you’re thankful for. Putting that information on paper can help you quantify all the blessings in your life, despite any difficulties you’ve faced.

Need some conversation starters for your together time this fall?

If you two need some strong prompts to keep your communication flowing this fall, check out our book, Love Talk Starters. It contains 275 questions you can ask one another to get your conversations started. You’ll undoubtedly stay connected and learn more about one another in the process. Get your copy here.

Are you and your spouse looking forward to the fall? What are some of your favorite seasonal activities to share? Let us know in the comments.


  • Kyle says:

    Of we’re all christians here, don’t set up, decorate, or spend any time associating with halloween. It’s not harmless, it’s a celebration of evil.

  • Ashley says:

    Hey Kyle, the Halloween “tradition (actually) originated with the ancient Celtic festival of Samhain, when people would light bonfires and wear costumes to ward off ghosts. In the eighth century, Pope Gregory III designated November 1 as a time to honor all saints.” Thanks for being loving and accepting of all faiths!

    Citation: https://www.history.com/topics/halloween/history-of-halloween

    • Tim says:

      Ashley, per history.com Samhain festval tells more of the truth even tho secular. The key word is it is a ‘pagan’ holiday! Pagan means demonic or NOT of God! 6 days of debauchery that included leaving your windows open and inviting the dead to come back and talk to them. Sounds like Satan.
      The pope tried to chistianise the holiday and combine It to be about saints.
      God does not say to accept all faiths, he says to love the people but Do Not do what they do!

      Lets not sugar coat it!

      There is nothing good about the holiday. Well, i like the candy!!

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