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My Spouse Had An Affair, and I’m Crushed. What Now?

By Marriage 11 Comments

When a spouse cheats, what should the innocent party do next? If you’ve ever discovered a spouse’s affair, you know that facing infidelity in your marriage is a heart-wrenching experience. You suffer emotionally, psychologically, and sometimes even physically as the grief sets in. But even though you’re carrying a lot of pain right now, there’s hope. We have seen many couples face infidelity over our years as therapists. While it’s possible to face this experience together and come out stronger on the other side, infidelity jolts a marriage like nothing else. The heartbreak is very real, and if you’re facing…

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Why Self-Examination is Essential to Marital Success

Why Self-Examination is Essential to Marital Success

By Self Reflection 2 Comments

Do you spend time examining yourself to become a better person, friend, and spouse? Being willing to examine ourselves ultimately makes us better individuals and partners. It’s not just essential to marital success; it’s important in every aspect of your life. However, marriage is the most important relationship your self-examination (or lack of it) will impact. Essentially, self-examination isn’t just about knowing yourself. It’s about being willing to continually revisit who you are and how you’ve changed over time. It’s also about being able to accept constructive criticism from your spouse and loved ones, and to learn from it. Know…

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How to Nurture Your Marriage While Parenting a Child With Disabilities

How to Nurture Your Marriage While Parenting a Child With Disabilities

By Marriage, Parenting One Comment

Are you and your spouse parenting a disabled child, caring for an aging parent, or seeing to the everyday health needs of a loved one? The circumstances around being caretakers can impact your time and availability for one another. If you have a child with a disability, you want to be intentional with the time you have for your marriage. Many couples raising children with special needs have tumultuous waters to navigate. There may be seasons when you aren’t able to spend much time with one another at all. This makes it so much more important to support one another…

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Unfinished Business: Getting Closure for Old Hurts

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Having unresolved conflict in your relationships–especially in your marriage–creates tension that weighs on both you and your spouse. It distracts you and eventually creates resentment, further breaking down your relationship. We like to think of this kind of conflict as unfinished business. Unfinished business involves issues you and your spouse have never been able to fully work through. If one of you is holding onto old hurts, it’s likely you’ve never felt like those have had a chance to heal. This can happen for many reasons, and the longer hard feelings simmer, the more difficult they will be to resolve….

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3 Signs Your Marriage Needs Help Right Now

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Is your marriage in trouble? There are a myriad of ways you can tell whether or not your marriage has crossed over into a danger zone. Those danger signs vary from one relationship to the next, and they manifest for different reasons. While it’s up to you and your spouse to determine exactly what is breaking down in your marriage, there are some basic signs and symptoms you can identify to help you discern whether your marriage needs help. If you’re wondering whether your relationship is in danger, then read on. In this post, we’ve gathered three common red flags…

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How to Give Your Marriage an Attitude Adjustment

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The attitudes you and your spouse hold toward different circumstances will affect your marriage in a myriad of ways. Good, bad, or clashing attitudes set the stage for how you’ll work together to tackle a problem–or not. That’s why it becomes essential to give your marriage an attitude adjustment from time to time. It’s a good idea to check in on your attitudes from time to time, and from one situation to the next. The way you look at and approach challenges is largely defined by your attitude toward them. If you want to succeed as a couple, then you’ll…

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What You Need to Know About Everyday Problems in Marriage

By Conflict, Marriage 3 Comments

Every couple experiences problems in their marriage, and those issues seem to be universally common. If you could be a fly on the wall in our office during the counseling sessions we’ve held over the years, you would hear many similar stories and scenarios repeating themselves among a host of different couples. While the individual features of each scenario are unique, many of the issues come down to the same core problems. Once the honeymoon phase of a marriage has passed, many couples are perplexed when issues and disappointments begin to take root. Building a happy, lifelong marriage takes work,…

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Resent Your Spouse? 5 Ways to Reset

By Conflict, Marriage, Relationships 5 Comments

Resentment is an insidious force that creeps into marriages and cripples them. It’s important to rid your marriage of any resentment that might exist, choosing instead to focus on your love for one another. But sometimes, resentment roots into your attitude toward your spouse anyway, and it takes work to weed it out again. If you feel that you resent your spouse, here are a few ways to hit the reset button. 1. Check in with your hard feelings. How long have your hard feelings been festering? Are you feeling resentful about something that happened long ago, or something more…

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6 Issues That Can Sabotage Any Marriage (and How to Fix Them)

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Looking to prevent problems in your marriage before they begin? There are six major–but subtle–marriage saboteurs you should be on the lookout for. Let’s take a look at what they are, and how to fix them. 1. Having too many obligations. Life is busy–we get it. But staying too busy can actually sabotage your marriage. When you and your spouse are so consumed with day-to-day obligation, it can be easy for those obligations to crowd your intimacy out. How to fix it: You can’t put a marriage on autopilot. It takes daily commitment to keep that spark alive. Be intentional…

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Relationship Woes: How to Turn a Negative Attitude Around

By Communication, Self Reflection 4 Comments

“All that you achieve and all that you fail to achieve is the direct result of your own thoughts.” -James Allen Most everyone has experienced a bad attitude in their relationship. Believe it or not, there are ways you can turn this negativity around. After all, we aren’t born with bad attitudes – they are developed in our minds over time. With effort, we can protect ourselves against the bad attitude disease. There is no simple procedure to eliminating bad attitudes forever, but there are ways you can take a negative attitude and nip it in the bud. Today, we…

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