Affair-Proofing Your Marriage: Filling Emotional Gaps

What is the most important thing I can do to protect my marriage against an affair?

We don’t always anticipate asking ourselves this question, but often, once we’re married, we find ourselves becoming fearful of an extramarital affair. It’s not something we should take lightly; after all, statistics for infidelity and divorce have been very high for a long time.

If you’re doubting your ability to keep your commitment to your spouse (or your spouse’s ability to stay committed to you), it’s time to evaluate what’s behind your fears. Do you have areas of your life where your emotional needs are not being met (or even addressed)?

In today’s video, we’ll talk about the importance of filling the emotional gaps in your marriage to protect against an affair.

Don’t allow yourself to be controlled by a mood of anxiety; that won’t contribute to the faithfulness in your marriage. In fact, chronic anxiety can strain a marriage. After all, you don’t want anything to damage your relationship–least of all your own anxiety projected onto your spouse.

Instead, let your spouse know that you value the vows you made to him or her. Ask your spouse if they’re feeling satisfied in the marriage, and pay attention to any emotional needs they may express or present. Then do your best to fill those needs.

Be sure to address your own emotional needs as well. A large portion of infidelity is related to unaddressed emotional gaps, rather than sexual factors. It’s important for you to identify and then proactively address any issues you may have that could be leaving you vulnerable to having an affair yourself.

We’d love to hear from you! How have you successfully addressed the anxiety in your marriage? What positive differences has that made for you and your spouse?


Join us for a WEBINAR on March 9th! Watch this video to learn more about it!


And, register here to reserve your seat to this exciting webinar!

Leave a Reply