Conflict

I feel like since we got married I don’t know what’s going on in my wife’s head. What happened? When you were dating your spouse, you talked about everything–it felt like you were on the same wavelength. But now that you’re married, you realize you have no idea what your spouse is thinking. Everything between you two was open before, but now there are times when you feel totally lost. So what gives? In this video, we share some ideas for practicing healthy “mind-reading” in marriage that will help you overcome the communication barriers you may be experiencing. Did you…

What Is the Best Way to Support My Spouse After a Traumatic Event? After a traumatic event, you might feel like you’ve lost your spouse–even though he or she is physically with you. As your spouse navigates the waters of post-traumatic stress or depression, you may feel lonely or helpless. How do you help your husband or wife through a difficult time like this? In today’s video, we offer advice for supporting your spouse through the emotional fallout that often occurs in the aftermath of a traumatic event. Have you or your spouse needed support after experiencing a tragedy or…

Somewhere along the way, a little lie snuck its way into Christian culture, whispering that couples who are truly following God simply won’t fight. That a Christ-centered marriage means an always peaceful marriage. That good, church-going husbands and wives should not encounter discord. The truth? It is absolutely OK to argue within a Christian marriage. And in fact, not only is it OK, but it’s actually good–when fair, mature, and under the right circumstances. Here are three reasons why fighting is not only OK, but also fruitful. It’s OK because fighting well allows us to live under realistic expectations. We’re…

How to Fall Back In Love With Your Spouse Over time, it can be easy to stop getting to know your spouse over and over again. You might think your husband or wife hasn’t changed, even after years of marriage–and maybe you’ve become bored. Chances are, you’ve lost sight of one another’s passions and interest, and you have probably missed some changes in one another along the way. In this video, we address the issue of boredom in marriage, and offer simple (but powerful) solutions that will help you reignite your spark and fall in love all over again. Have…

My Wife Cannot Say “No” to Anyone. She is a Mess with Stress. How Do I Help Her? It’s difficult to watch the person you love most overextend themselves and lose control of their life because they have no boundaries. A person who never says “no” will eventually burn out from exhaustion, and it’s important for his or her spouse to recognize when it’s time to intervene. In this video, we discuss ideas for helping your spouse set healthy boundaries on external demands in order to alleviate stress and exhaustion. Does your spouse have a difficult time saying no? How…

My Husband Spends the Majority of his Time Involved in Sports. Do I need to change, or does he? So you’re married to a sports nut, and it’s causing division in your relationship. Should your spouse change his (or her!) ways, or should you? In this video, we suggest adjustments, compromises, and possible boundaries to implement in order to bring more harmony to your marriage. Are you married to a sports fanatic? What are some things you have done to bring harmony to your marriage? Have you become involved in your spouse’s sports interest in order to cultivate shared time…