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Self Reflection

Should I Discuss A Flirty Co-Worker With My Spouse?

By Communication, Conflict, Self Reflection 4 Comments

Do I tell my spouse if a co-worker flirts with me in an unwanted manner? Flirty co-workers…now that is a sensitive issue! Not only can a flirtatious work colleague make your work situation uncomfortable; they can also create a dilemma for you, when it comes to deciding whether to talk to your spouse about them. In today’s video, we’re talking about navigating the tricky waters of unwanted flirtation in the workplace…and whether to tell your spouse about it. It’s important to think through the pros and cons of keeping information like this to yourself. Ask yourself questions like… Will my…

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Extended Conflict: 5 Tips for Overcoming a Stalemate

By Communication, Conflict, In-laws & Family, Self Reflection 14 Comments

Inevitably, you and your spouse will run into issues you can’t agree on that will lead to friction in your relationship. Instead of letting conflict simmer, unresolved–where it will eventually burn up your relationship–allow it to shed light. It’s frustrating and painful to get locked in a stalemate with your spouse…the one person you really don’t want to disagree with. Here are 5 tips for overcoming an unresolved conflict in your marriage. Don’t Avoid Conflict In the short run, it’s very easy to avoid conflict. But long-term, it can be damaging–so you can’t ignore issues, especially if you’ve reached a…

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Clash of Careers: Whose Is More Important?

By Careers, Communication, Conflict, In-laws & Family, Self Reflection, Time No Comments

Our career pursuits can sometimes clash. Whose career should take priority? When you and your spouse are both very passionate about the future, your career, and your dreams (both individual and shared), those things can sometimes collide.What do you do when that happens? Whose career and dreams should take precedence? In marriage, it’s important to negotiate a shared relationship–because when the goals and dreams of two people in a marriage clash, things can get very complicated. Today, we’re talking about ways to work together through conflicting career goals. Goals often require one spouse to sacrifice on the other’s behalf. Even…

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Frazzled Mom, Exhausted Wife: What to Do When Everyone NEEDS You

By Communication, Conflict, In-laws & Family, Self Reflection, Time 17 Comments

Being a wife and a mom is one of life’s greatest joys. Partnering with your husband to raise a family is an incredibly rewarding and fulfilling role; however, it’s challenging all at the same time. The role of a wife and mom is not only a huge blessing, but a huge responsibility–and it can leave you completely WORN OUT. The kids have fifteen different places they need to be and, on top of all that, they have a mile-long list of school supplies waiting to be purchased and thrown into their backpacks. Your husband’s working late, and needs you to set…

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Dealing With Changing Feelings in Marriage

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Is it normal to wake up thanking God for your husband one day, and the next day you can’t stand him? Welcome to true love. It may sound funny, but this is how it is! We’ve never met anyone who wakes up every single morning, looks at their spouse, and thinks they’re the luckiest person in the world. No–definitely not every morning (not even us!). You married a real person. Your spouse has great strengths, abilities, and character…but on the flipside, your spouse also has annoying habits and flaws, and I’ll bet he or she also makes plenty of mistakes….

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After the Honeymoon: When Routine Trumps Romance

By Communication, Conflict, Self Reflection 10 Comments

We all long for a lifetime of honeymoons–starry-eyed romance, long days on the beach, sleeping in, pampering, relaxation. The reality is, once newlyweds return from their romance-filled paradise, they step back into their daily routines, this time as a husband and wife. The first year of marriage is an adventure, regardless of what each person’s daily schedule looks like. Maybe both spouses are getting up and going to an office everyday, or maybe one is working from home and the other traveling for a living. Combining the busy schedules of two different people equals a situation that requires intentional care….

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Modern Partnerships: Marriage in Today’s Culture

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Are more couples moving away from the traditional model of marriage and towards a partnership? In our experience, the ways individual couples function is something that is completely unique to every couple. This isn’t necessarily in the traditional or theological sense; rather, it’s about the dynamic that each couple settles on that works best for them. In today’s video, we’re discussing different relationship dynamics, and how couples tend to settle on whatever works best for them. Through third-party research and our own observation, we’ve seen three common relationship models: The peer marriage, where the spouses are partners who divvy up…

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Panic Monster: How to Help Your Spouse When Anxiety Hits

By Communication, In-laws & Family, Self Reflection 11 Comments

Anxiety. Most of us have been there: an issue that–to the outside world–seems arguably small balloons into a crushing, suffocating weight. Our hearts race. Our palms sweat. We descend into a spiraling panic, and find that it’s difficult (and even hopeless) to stop the feeling of dread building inside our chests. Most of us know what anxiety feels like when it’s happening to us, but it can be difficult to know how to help someone we love when they are being riddled with it. It’s easy to feel at a loss, not knowing what to do or say. Can’t they…

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Ending the In-Law Comparison Game

By Communication, Conflict, In-laws & Family, Self Reflection No Comments

How do I get my husband to stop holding my parents to the same financial standards as his parents? So your in-laws have gifted you with something very nice, or very expensive. Let’s say it’s a large sum of money to go toward a down payment on a home for you and your spouse. What happens when your parents can’t match the same contribution your in-laws have made? And how do you handle it when your spouse holds your parents to the same financial standards as his or her parents? In today’s video, we’re discussing strategies for ending the in-law…

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Intense Marriage, Intense Kids: How to Cope

By Communication, Conflict, Self Reflection, Time 6 Comments

Children are always a blessing. But children bring a tremendous change to your home and your relationship as you previously knew it. And if your kids have intense, spirited, strong personalities, the changes to your world are even more pronounced! If one of your personalities is also intense (or both!), this makes life all the more interesting. Today, we’re sharing a few tips on how to cope with intensity in your home. Actively manage your stress levels. We cannot emphasize enough how important it is to keep your stress levels as low as possible. Intensity in your marriage or family…

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